Should I tell him I love him? I'm sooo torn...?

Question

Ok, I am now in a good relationship of 4 months with a great guy. But before we were ever together...i had feelings for another guy. Very strong feelings..I loved him and I still do. I never told him this, we are just friends.
This wouldnt be soo much of a problem, if i could get the other guy out of my head...I kno I love him more than my bf..who I do love, just differently. I think about the other guy constantly..not in a sexual way. I dont think its fair to my current bf who loves me a lot...for me to feel this way about another person. I want to give 100% to this relationship, but no matter what i do...i cant push the other guy out of my mind. Ive tried to get over him time and again...but nothing seems to work in the long term. Im debating on whether or not to tell that guy how i feel by writing him a letter...just to see if he feels the same. My friends tell me to break up with my bf because hes going to get hurt..but that will happen either way. What should I do?

I AM NOT in highschool...I love my boyfriend as in I love and care about him..just as i do my friends and family. I know it isnt true love...and i know it takes time to find that kind of love. No...i dont go around telling him I love him all the time. The other guy...ive known 2 years...ive never told him how i felt. I didnt realize it was love...but everyone who knew me..knew that i loved him.

Answer 1

ok you if you don't love the guy in a sexal way do you think you just love him as a friend cuz i think about this dude all the time but i know i love him as a friend you have to find out rather you love him as a friend or as a lover and if you choose lover tell him

Answer 2

You're in high school, aren't you? 4 months and you 'love' him? Doubt it.

1. Don't have a relationship with someone when you only think of someone else.
2. Look into hooking up with the guy you DO like.
3. Stop calling it love. It's not.