Being that my x and I were together for 7 months and he was my first love lately things have been really hard for me. I mean I've had quite a few dates already and they are all really nice guys but I just can't get my mind off my x. What should I do? Continue dating in the hopes that I will forget him? Cut off all contact with him? Get rid of his things?
I need help . . .
2006-11-27 04:32:00 · 6 answers · asked by ~*Everybodys Fool*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's truely a first love, you will never get over it.....or at least to the point of forgetting anything ever was there. Time will pass and eventually you'll lose the desire to or urge to be with him........but he may always be there at the back of your mind or pop up in thoughts every once in a while. Love is something you can't just forget, it's a life experience. But to answer your question in a more helpful way.........dating other people helps to ease what ever pain is left behind, and keeps your occupied and your focus on being happy.
2006-11-27 04:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Stephen....i am going through the same thing. ALthough the person is not my ex...just a friend that i have loved for a while.. I know its not mutual..and i am in another relationship . But i can never get him out of my head completely. It hurts and its not fair to anyone else u are with. I know its hard and I wish i could get him off my mind faster and for good. That would save us all alot of trouble. But sometimes it just doesnt seem possible and I wonder...does that mean hes the one? Am I going to walk right past my true love? Sooo...Im confused as to why I want to forget him in the first place. Love Sucks. Just try to find someone who can take ur mind off of him and make u happy..i hope that works for u...it hasnt worked for me.
2006-11-27 12:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Carly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will pass and one day you'll wake up and realise that your ex doesnt matter to you anymore, you still have that rose-tinted glow of love in your head right now and your head is still filled with thoughts of him, but that will fade. There must be a reason you broke up, just think about that and realise that there has to be someone more perfect for you out there.
A 7 month relationship feels like a long time, especially when it's your first love, but it's really only a blip in your life. Get rid of his things and don't be scared of moving on, you'll be a stronger woman for it.
Love will find you again, just don't be afraid to be there when it shows up ;-)
2006-11-27 12:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't gave yourself time to heal. even though the other dates was alright, you kept coming back to him. it's a hard road to go down after you breakup with your first love, but the best thing for you to do is to give yourself some solo time to figure out what's best for you and also to heal. there is no cut and dry answer to this, except that it just takes time.
2006-11-27 12:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Roger W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep smiling :)
You will forget about him sooner or later but the more you worry the longer it will take.
You can try putting you mind on something else as well such as a hobby etc.
2006-11-27 12:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by adlingtont 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time can help you:) it takes time to heal wounds and it takes time to forget:) all you need is to give yourself time:) you don't have to date to get over him get involved with other things keep yourself busy :)
2006-11-27 12:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋