I have tried the don't offer, don't refuse, tried distracting her. Problem is that she remebers when the regular nursing times are and it upsets her very much. I want to do this gently and gradually, over the next 2 or 3 months, but I don't feel like we're making any progress. Andrea
2006-11-27 04:21:54 · 8 answers · asked by loira74 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
That's a tough one!!
Here are some suggestions for making the transition easier for both of you:
Engage your child in a fun play activity or an outing during the time when you would usually nurse.
Avoid sitting in your usual nursing spots or wearing your usual nursing clothes.
Delay weaning if your child is trying to adapt to some other change in his life. Trying to wean your child when he or she is just beginning child care or when teething is probably not a good idea.
If your baby is younger than a year, it's a good idea to introduce a bottle or cup when you would typically be nursing. If he or she is older than a year, try a healthy snack or maybe even just a cuddle.
Try changing your daily routine so that you are otherwise engaged when you would typically be breastfeeding.
Enlist your partner's help to provide a distraction at a typical nursing time.
If your child begins to pick up a comforting habit such as thumb sucking or becomes attached to a security blanket, don't discourage it. Your child may be trying to adjust to the emotional changes of weaning.
Good luck!!
2006-11-27 04:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by seaelen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried expressing? No more breast at all, only breastmilk offered in a small cup or a sippy? That will get her used to drinking it seperately from you. Then after a few weeks, start slowly mixing your milk with cow (soy, rice, whichever) until she's getting 100% of the other milk. A slow change like that will make it easier for her to adjust. If the percent of breastmilk in the cup slowly drops over a few weeks, it will be harder for her to notice.
The other option is cold turkey. I weaned my child to 1 feeding a day a bedtime, then stopped totally. The weaning to once per day over a few weeks lowered my milk supply to a level that didn't cause me engorgement. So once I stopped totally, I wasn't carrying around a chest full of throbbing pain.
2006-11-27 12:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express milk into the cup and offer that at nursing times, have her sit on your lap and drink from the cup it will let her know you are still close but she needs to drink form the cup. Also reward her with "big girl treats" like a tea party with you and her dollies or a teddy bear picnic(pack up teddy or favored toy) and head for lunch at the park or botanical garden.after several days of no breast. Once she sees that you are not abandoning her she will be more comfortable with the cup. Good Luck!
2006-11-27 12:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I weaned my daughter I would put something that tasted bad to her, but wouldn't hurt her, on my nipples before she tried to nurse. I used ketchup, she didn't like the taste. When she tried to nurse it would taste bad to her, I would tell her that she must be getting to big to nurse because it doesn't taste good to her anymore. That means she is now a big girl & doesn't need to nurse anymore. We bought her a special big girl cup & she got to choose her own juice. I made it a really big deal & told her how proud I was of her. It only took a couple of days untill she stopped wanting to try to nurse, she didn't get upset. It wasn't something that I was telling her no about, it was because she was getting to be a big girl.
2006-11-27 12:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sherrie L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a friend of mine did was,
she bought a "big girl" toy that the child wanted very much, and when the girl quit asking to nurse all the time, she got the toy.
To build her up to that point, my friend went to the dollar store and bought some toys, books, etc, just inexpensive but safe toys, to give her at the end of each day then after the second week, she got the bigger toy.
by the time the first week was over the daughter was about over it.
hope this helps
2006-11-27 12:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by sandrarosette 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my sister has a child and he is a toddlor just like ur's and he gets into everything u should block him from the dishwasher and throwing things and say no bad and walk him/her to their room for time out it works good luck
2006-11-27 12:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
gentle and gradual may not work. sounds like she is already spoiled and has a great deal of control over you, and of course you are in denial about that. i suggest you take a weekend away from her.
2006-11-27 12:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ovrtaxed 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How old is your toddler?? just stop doing it.. She will probably give fits, but you just need to stop... Good luck
2006-11-27 12:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋