argument with mom?

Question

My mom and I usually get along quite well, but we had an argument recently. For a school project (I'm a college student), I want to visit a country in Africa (a safe one) to study the effects of poverty and hunger on education. She says she's not comfortable with me going. I told her she was being unreasonable and she told me she would just worry about me the entire time. There's no deeper meaning to it - the school would pay for it, so money isn't a problem. However, when I try to do things on my own, she freaks out - the last time I went to the doctor for a regular checkup and I didn't have her called in when I was done, she yelled at me for hours, even though I am at a legal age where she does not have to be present. Is she just being unreasonable, or am I, for wanting to study a few weeks during the summer in Africa?

Answer 1

Are you the only child or the "baby" of the family? If so, she might feel that she doesn't have anything else to live for after you grow up.

Answer 2

I don't think that there's any such thing as a 'safe' African country. Seems to me that there always is some type of tribal warfare going on between Muslim factions or some other type of pissin contest over who gets to be Warlord of the Month. Why don't you try India? Now there's a real hell-hole. Caste systems, trains that never run on time and when they do they go off the tracks killing thousands who not only are in the cars but also on top of and under 'em. Same with busses...stay off that type of transportation.
India is pretty crummy and the people are dirt poor. yet there is somewhat of a semblance of civiliaztion there and you can still be right in the heart of the poverty you so desperately want to be a part of. Isn't that grand? Be sure to book your flight today and good luck.

Answer 3

You know you're not wrong but neither is your mom,she's just being over protective because she loves you.There is so much danger in the world today that she is afraid of losing you to some violence.I would say go ahead and go,she will be worried but in Gods grace you should be fine.I have the same problem with my gran daughter going away to school soon and I don't want her to go where I am not, because I am not sure I could stand the pain of losing her to violence.Yet she keeps moving forward with her life and that teaches me to let go and trust her judgments and pray a whole lot.Good luck and live your life and keep in touch with your mom because she loves you,it's as simple as that.