I am so uncomfortable. The money is so tight and I have issues with having a brother-in-law who tried to have sex with me. It was a long time ago, but I was only 12 and he was about 30 and it really bothers me. And I just feel so sad and sick during the holiday season. Being around so many people is really hard.
2006-11-27 04:18:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do. My family was never that close and money is always way too tight for me that time of year.
I still love the holidays, I just try to relax and enjoy some holiday time at home as much a possible.
2006-11-27 04:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holidays can be very stressful. Plan to celebrate the holidays at another family members house. Or have each one contribute something to the occasion. As far as the brother-in-law is concerned, 'Does anyone besides you know that this took place? Whether they do/don't, He, under NO circumstances should be allowed in your house for any reason, much less the holidays! I don't know the whole story, but why let other people dictate your life? It's OK to say no, especially under those conditions. I hope everything works out! Only you can make that happen.
2006-11-27 13:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you're coming from...to a point. I'm in the military and, well, I just don't get that same old holiday feeling as I use to get when I was a civilian, mainly because I'm always focused on my work. What I do is try to remember what the whole season is for. It's all been so commercialized now that people often forget that it's family, friends, and being thankful for what you have that makes the holiday season.
2006-11-27 04:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by devildawg361 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am so sorry for the 12yr old in you to have to relive it every year have you ever talked to anyone about it it might help
I had to go to grief consoling for about 1 after my husband died Christmas was his Birthday as well as his favorite holiday so I had a hard time for about 4 years now but I am getting better. try to remember that the reason for the season is not gifts . So don't let yourself get wrapped up in the gift giving BS It helped me to volunteer at shelter I didn't have much money but I did have the time and being around people helped me . If you can't handle your own blood family than gather your group of people and make your own circle and please remember to celebrate your own life you are an amazing woman I wish you love
2006-11-27 05:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don' like being around crowds either. I just politely say no to gatherings I know I'll feel uncomfortable at and say yes to the ones I know I will enjoy. If people pressure me into stopping by for a holiday gathering, I just tell them I will try to stop by and just leave it at that and thank them for inviting me.
2006-11-27 04:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my wife is always uncomfortable during the holidays when it comes to her family. its always like her family pretends to be a happy loving family during this time. any other time they hate each other for being born. buying expensive gifts is there way of making things OK. she is starting to realize that her real family is in our house . not in her parents. its OK to love your family, but any type of abuse is not .when you start to make you #1 you will do what makes you feel good and when it starts to feel good then you know its the right thing. if this person is holding you back at family functions then dont go but do not let anyone make you feel bad for someone elses actions. don't let anyone tell you that its time to get over it either. your wound will heal when it heals. I've told my wife everything I've told you .its taken her 10 yrs. to believe me but shes finally listening. I wish the best for you always especially during the holidays.
2006-11-27 05:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by gary j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's sad to hear... but to answer your question, No, I love the holidays.
2006-11-27 04:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋