Since the viewing is this evening only and burial tomorrow, I will be unable to attend. However, I would like to do something that is appropiate to show that I am very sorry for the loss. If anyone has any ideas, please let me know.
2006-11-27 04:15:53 · 15 answers · asked by happynay 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Marie is right. If you didn't know her personally, a small gift in her honor to a charity is perfect. Then give a card to your supervisor letting her know about the gift, and that you're very sorry for her loss. Maybe you could arrange to have the department (if it's a large enough one) pitch in to send her a basket of fruit or cookies or something. But whatever you do, do it in the next day or two.
2006-11-27 05:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card is very appropriate. Is there an obituary? Sometimes in the obit the family will list a charity for donations. If not, you can select a charity and donate in the memory of the sister-in-law.
Some suggestions for charities: American Heart Association
Local shelters for homeless
Battered Women's Shelter
Habitat for Humanity
Local hospice
Your supervisor will be happy to receive the card and the remembrance.
2006-11-27 04:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to in this case, is what I always do, order some flowers and say on the card something like, "We are sorry for your loss.....or Our Deepest Sympathy". Make it from everyone at work that way she feels like she has good support when she goes back. She may not even mention them, but flowers are the best way to say you really do care.
2006-11-27 04:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not clear to me. Is it your supervisor's sister-in-law? If so and you are just looking for what is socially appropriate then a card will do...plants are too personal(unless a bunch of you knew her in the office and want to chip in) and donations are OK if small..if you go too far passed a card and no one else does anything well...that is not appropraite either.
2006-11-27 04:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by ronibuni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto with the card. Have everyone at work sign it. Also, food is an appropriate gift instead of flowers, especially after the burial.
2006-11-27 04:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send your supervisor a condolence card. As it is her sister in law, your supervisor is considered family and the sentiment is there. Also, if there is a charity listed in the in-law's obituary, a small donation in her name would be nice.
2006-11-27 06:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Allison S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a sympathy card really is enough. But if you are fond of your supervisor and want to give more than a card, please don't give flowers. They don't last long, and there are always so many flowers. Give a nice small green plant instead to your supervisor. They last a long time, and she/he will be reminded of your thoughtfulness.
2006-11-28 00:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A condolence card to the family is a start. Also, check the paper to see if flowers are welcome or if they prefer a donation to a charity. If it says nothing, send a small funeral arrangment - or better yet find out what the SIL's passion was - animals, children, whatever - and go ahead and make a donation in her name.
2006-11-27 04:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sending flowers is traditional...you could also send (or take over) a nice live plant (many people like this option because it gives them something they can keep), you could offer to pick up some of her shifts at the office, you could bring over some food that you've cooked (something that just needs to be reheated), or even a nice sympathy card would be appropriate
2006-11-27 07:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send a card or have someone to stand in for you to say your remarks of the good times you recall spending with you maybe even have some one tell everyone in attendance a good joke that she told to you you can write it down for them to say sry send a plant for the family to be reminded tie a beautiful ribbon around it write a nice saying on the ribbon add something special like a butterfly on the inside of it to be reminded of who she was gl
2006-11-27 04:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋