We've been dating for 4 months and he's met my parents, but I've not met his because they live out of town. The only family of his that I know is his sister, though she's out of town, too. I really want to spend Christmas with him because he was out of town for Thanksgiving. I don't want to seem pushy, and I don't know if it's even appropriate for me to tell him I want to go. He hasn't made any indication that he would be inviting me. We are very close, so I don't think he would mind having me there, but he's the type of person who just doesn't think about things like that.
2006-11-27 04:15:23 · 15 answers · asked by tnkrissyjo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just have to ask him.....
2006-11-27 04:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you to be there, he would have asked already. He is maybe not ready for that step... It has only been 4 months... His time away should be with his family and not trying to entertain you.
He needs time alone with them and you do not have a place there as yet... That will come with time.
I think for now the Holiday s with his family is where he should be and you should be with yours.
It is rather selfish of you to want to be everywhere he is .. and a little immature in your attitude.
Don't take anything for granted like " he doesn't think of those things". Maybe you are saying this to make yourself feel better ... You need to loosen your hold a bit and give him personal space....I am sure you would want the same for yourself, given the same situation.....
2006-11-27 12:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.. My BF practically begged me to go home with him for Christmas and I just found out that I can have the day I needed off from work!!!!! I'm soo happy. Back to you- just say how you're happy your family likes him and everyone gets along. Then hint at how you cant wait to meet his family. say "What do you think about having me meet them during the holidays? Would I able to come along?" Think about this- what are is travel arrangements, will there be enough room for you in the vehicle or do yuo think he might be concerned about having to pay your way? Also, will his family have a lot of visitors for the holidays? Maybe they wont have a place for you to sleep. Also, does he talk to them about you a lot? Maybe he'll feel weird about bringing someone home who they havent heard much about. Just mention it to him nicely and dont make it sound rehearsed. The worst he can say is no, and try not to teke it personally. If he doesnt visit home much, maybe he ust wants to be able to be alone with his fam and enjoy their company without having to worry about entertaining you the whole time
2006-11-27 12:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he flying out of town or driving. Well, once you answer that question go to the store and buy one of those two. Then attach a ribbon to it and put it were you know he's going to follow the ribbon and at the ribbon place a card and in the card, place the picture of you holding a sign saying can I go with you PLEASE. He'll laugh if you have a puppy face in the picture!
2006-11-27 12:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Careatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if his parents would mind if you came up with him for Christmas, but let him know you want to spend that day with him.
2006-11-27 12:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Tosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's late November - you need to know what you're doing for Christmas! Tell him you would normally go to your parents but that obviously now you're dating you don't want to make any decisions without consulting him, as it would be just as nice to do something with him. That way you show him he's as important as your parents without seeming desperate.
2006-11-27 12:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him hey i would like to go out of town with you for christmas to your parents. what do you think of that. does it sound like it would be ok.
thats all you gotta do. but if he says no than dont be too upset or whine and ***** or make i a big deal
2006-11-27 12:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him.let him know that the holidays are coming up and you would like to spend them witht him,although you know he will be going out of town to see his family.and let him know if he wanted to you would love to go with him,if not then you would be there for him when he gets back to celebrate the holidays with him.
2006-11-27 12:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by alexander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try just asking but it seems to me that if he really wanted you to go he would ask you.
2006-11-27 12:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a singing telegram (or strip-o-gram!) When they arrive they sing "Your girlfriend sincerely requests that you be together during the 2006 Chistmas season!" ...shoo be doo wop wop woooo!
2006-11-27 12:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can meet his parents over christmas.
2006-11-27 12:18:45 · answer #11 · answered by Redneck Midget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋