We're together for 5 months now.
Lately, he wasn't showing any sign of wanting me in bed, but I wasn't that concerned...
Last weekend, my boyfriend asked me a very shocking question. "Why do you always reject me? You don't want any physical contact?" I had no idea what he was saying. I thought we were great, but he felt I wasn't giving any sign that I want him. So he had test me what I would do if he didn't lead me to sex, and though I was dissapointed some times, I can never lead sex from me, because my culture as Japanese, leading from female is not a great manner... But we had a talk, and we seemed to understand now. Now, I want him to feel loved, and satisfied.
Could any of you please advise me several great situation for making love, and how many times a day would be good for you..?
I also never had orgasm with him yet...this might mean I'm not relaxed with him yet...?
2006-11-27 04:04:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I have lower sex drive than him, but that doesn't mean I don't like to have one. I want to have a long, satisfying one...
2006-11-27 04:05:38 · update #1
Men have the same need to feel wanted that women do, but most of us have been imprinted with the idea that we have to be the aggressors. That's why we like women who know what they want sexually; it frees us from some of the burden of constantly being the hunter.
This may be contrary to your upbringing, but give it a try: on some occasion when you know the two of you will be alone and undisturbed, have him bring you home (to yours or his, it's good either way). Once you've got the door securely locked, literally tackle him in the living room and ravish him on the floor. Take control of the encounter from the beginning, and be as uninhibited as you can manage (bonus points if you try something new;Cosmo and Redbook can help with that). That will send an unmistakeable sign that you passionately want him, and he will definitely feel loved.
2006-11-27 04:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be overtly sexual to give him the hint that you're interested in making love. If its not common in your culture to make the first move, this will be understandably difficult, but I suggest just being generally very loving and affectionate with him. You might not be instigating sex, but you are showing him that you care for him. And then he has the option of showing you whether he wants to take it further or not.
2006-11-27 12:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Biznitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man. When I am lying on the bed with my woman, the best and most relaxing thing she can do for me is to gently and very lightly, fondle and play with my manhood. It relaxes me and makes me feel like a man.
Some women do not reach orgasm from penetration alone. Try asking him to use his tongue. Tip: It would be nice to shower and clean yourself first. Heck, both of you in da shower is a better too.
2006-11-27 12:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Doraemon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay is the key to orgasm. Does he stimulate you before penetration or does he just stick it right in? If he doesn't do foreplay, he's being selfish.
There is no set rule for how many times a day you should have sex. You should do it because you want to, not because you feel you have to.
2006-11-27 12:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to get to know each other a bit better, after all 5 months is not long. There are still a lot of things to discover for both of you
2006-11-27 12:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
in general meeting him from work in various states of undress/.only in his tie (see pretty woman)/in the bath/with a plate of dinner in my hand tends to work quite well.
but also, do try to explain v gently that you have not had an orgasm yet - which is an obvious motivator to be having sex with someone in the first place - and he should care about this and want to please you too.
2006-11-27 12:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Squirrel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be willing to give as well as receive. You guys should try 69, he lies down and you get on top of him, with your kitty on his face and you face near his snake. They you guys will pleasure each other at the same time.
You will definitely get satisfied and so will he. It needs to be equal when it comes to sex and stop rejecting him, the same thing happened to me with my bf
2006-11-27 14:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are having breakfast put you head and feet in a bucket, then if he dosn't want sex he can use you as an egg cup.
P.s. it keeps the egg lovely and warm
2006-11-27 12:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a lower sex drive than my boyfriend too and theirs lots of thing i would rather not do like oral sex but everyonce in awhile it is a treat for him when i take charge and just please him. or ask him what he likes. playin with his balls also or something like that. for me its only once a day i start to get sore but for him it would be like three times a day
2006-11-27 12:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that yall have talked about it. How experimental are yyou willing to get? What about role playing or getting ideas from videos or magazines? Ask your boyfriend what he wants and tell him what you want.
2006-11-27 12:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Candice J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋