A guy that I was dating casually/lover for more than a year just recently moved away for job reasons. We're still keeping in touch, although not as much as we were in person of course. We never really talked about our problems together but I felt that it should be done if we were to get serious. He was starting to open up right before he left, but I feel that there is unfinished business on both of are parts. In a recent email, I told him that I had overcome my problem with diet pills (ephedrine) so that maybe he'd understand that I had a problem too with addiction...his addiction (chewing tobacco) and hopefully he can understand how much I care for him. Anyway, long story short-sorry, if I emailed him with that info, will this make things weird between us or will it help the relationship, like us trust each other? What do guys think about that type of situation?
2006-11-27 03:54:35 · 5 answers · asked by V i P b A b Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is definitely an appropriate subject to talk about if there's any possibility of the two of you getting serious. It's not the sort of thing that should be handled in an email, IMO; that's better for a face-to-face convo. But if email is the only contact you have right now, then it'll have to do.
2006-11-27 04:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ehhh, I personally feel it might make things weird/awkward. If the relationship had been casual, he's probably still in his casual relationship frame of mind. For you to randomly send an email full of emotional thoughts and feelings might seem out of left field to him. We would interpret that as a sign of wanting to get a bit closer, but guys often need much bigger, clearer signs! I'd just send him an email telling him straight up that maybe you miss him and/or that you had hoped you two would get closer. See how he reacts to that kind of direct information and then go from there.
2006-11-27 04:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not make it weird at all. In fact, that is what you are suppose to do in a relationship. Communicate. The only way to resolve issues and to grow in a relationship is by talking about it. If you hold out on each other then things would never or could never get resolved.
It should only make you stronger to be able to speak openly and freely.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 04:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont just listen to him asking how he is doing and is he adjusting leave that for phone conversations
2006-11-27 03:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it could hurt anything, it's showing that you care about him.
2006-11-27 03:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋