I want to have a baby shower but my husband and I live so far away from our families and friends and I don't really have that many friends. I know his parents would be willing to help out with some things and my parents have gotten some things for me already, but we still need more stuff. We are not relying on everyone else to buy us stuff but we just bought a house and money is kind of tight right now. I am 27 weeks and if there is going to be a shower it would have to be around Christmas while we are traveling to see his family anyway. Should I have my husband talk to his family and see if they would want to throw a shower or should I not worry about it? We never had a big wedding or a house warming so it's not like we have asked for anything from anyone before. I don't want people to think I am greedy but I think a baby shower would be fun. Any Advice?
2006-11-27 03:53:34 · 15 answers · asked by DevelopedBeauty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Have your husband talk to his family!! You deserve a nice baby shower and don't feel bad about having to initiate it.. Just have your husband suggest it to them, and I'm sure that they'll think of something!
2006-11-27 03:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband talk to his family (or if you are close enough, call the mom-in-law yourself) and see what they think. Plus, register online at a larger store (i.e. Walmart or Target) so that the store is VERY easily to get to. Even if a lot of people don't come around for a shower, I bet a lot of stuff off the registry will be bought anyways. We didn't have a shower and I bet half the registry was taken care of in just little here and there presents from friends and family. Plus, what about co-workers? I know a lot of women who have them at their works (my office has had 3 in the past 6 months) and I bought gifts for all of them, even though I didn't even know the women! Also, maybe talk to both families and you could plan something BIG for after the baby is born and everyone could meet the baby too! Plus, the baby needs so little the first couple weeks or so. Just a basinette, sleepers, diapers and bottles (if not breastfeeding) and the rest of the items could come later. Good Luck! I hope this helps!
2006-11-27 12:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my son, my boyfriend's family lives about 30 minutes from where we live. So his parents got all their relatives together and had a shower for us, but we went to their house for it, instead of having everyone come here. My parents live 2 hours away, so they threw us a shower too, with all our friends and family from that area there....again, we went there, would not have everyone come 2 hours to us.
I think you should definitely talk to your husband and parents/in-laws about having a shower...it's worth it, and you deserve it. It's not being greedy...but of course be willing to accommodate everyone. Christmas time might be a tough time to have a shower, because people are spending a lot already and buying lots of other gifts for everyone they know. Maybe talk to family about having it a week or two after Christmas, if you still have time...have it at one parents' house, and have them invite everyone there.
I had a friend who was due a little after Christmas, and she didn't want to be "rude" and have a shower around Christmas, because of the gifts and money thing...so she had her shower AFTER the baby was born. She didn't ask for the big things that she needed right away though...she bought all that herself. But it made buying gifts easier, because they knew she had had a girl.
2006-11-27 11:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe his family didn't suggest the idea of a shower anyway! I don't think it would be a bad idea for you husband to put the bug in their ear. They could whip up something at his parents house.
Good luck with the shower and the baby!
2006-11-27 12:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good idea for you to ask for people to give you a shower; it is like asking for gifts and I know you would not want people to think you greedy. Since you do need things why not do this: Ask your husband if he would talk to your family about the fact that you need things for the new baby and maybe they could put a call out to friends and family who might have some good used baby things that you might borrow or purchase. By telling people you need things, they may throw you a shower or at least help you to find reasonably priced things, new or used. Good luck.
2006-11-27 11:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it were me Id have my husband talk to his family and tell them youd like to have a baby shower there while you are visiting. Im sure the family would plan something for you. Everyone has a baby shower its not greedy to ask for one while you are visiting.
2006-11-27 12:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We recently moved 2500 miles from all our friends and family and were wondering the same thing. I called my mom and hers and told them to throw her a card shower. This worked GREAT!!! Instead of a million things we didn't need or like, we got a bunch of gift cards to spend on what we really needed.
If you are worried about sounding greedy have your husband call. I didn't have any qualms about doing it for my wife.
2006-11-27 12:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by bobthebuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby shower. I think maybe you should ask them to help you have one planned for December when you go home to see them. Its not greedy. Its called being excited and you need help. Do it.
2006-11-27 11:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki Lynn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your worried about everyone being so far away, so an on-line baby registration. Try target.com or babies r' us. Then send invitations for your shower with a note that you are registered on-line. If they can't make the shower, chances are they will hop on-line and order you something off of your registry!
2006-11-27 11:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by jenhatesnick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have your husband speak to his family. Best would be his brother-in-law, if he has a married sister, a brother if he has one, or his father. This way whoever he talks to can bring the idea to his spouse. It is a little sneaky, but it sounds less greedy.
2006-11-27 12:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋