i'm so lost i don't know what to do....?

Question

fri. night i was w/ my g/f family. i was talking to her mother and she asked me if she was going to class and if she was still taking her meds. i told her the truth which is that she's not going to school and she's not taking her meds. i told her because i was mad that she wasn't going to school and that she lied strait to my face about it for over a month and she told me she was taking meds but really flushed them. so her mom started yelling about it. that pissed her dad off that her mom was yelling because now he had to deal with her. her mom informed me that she had stole 1000$ from them which i only knew of 300that i thought was given to her. i was pissed about not knowing were the money went. her dad left and her mom got a ride home. we got into it cuz she was pissed that i said anything. she hit me w/ a bottle and i busted her lip. i had no car so i left on a dirtbike w/no lights helmet or shirt to go back to their house to get my car. when i got there they were really mad @ me.

so she took a bunch of stuff out of my house and is staying with her folks. i'm left with nothing. her folks think i'm some kind of woman beater when in fact she's the one that always hits me and her family doesn;t know what kind of **** i put up with. i still love her and know that what i did was wrong and still love her and want to change. but i'm hated by the family.

but i love and miss her so much. it's hard for me to go through my day w/out constantly thinking about her and regreting ever even being honest w/ her mom. i wish i had never ever said anything in the first place. i know it's my fault. even though her and her family are messed up and they would'vve found out tin the end. i still love her and them. it kills me to know that it's my fault that they hate me and that i went so crazy. the only reason it made me so mad is because i love her and i care about her. if it had been anyone else i would just leave them. i feel so alone and i'm scared that her family will never let me see her again. and even if they do they still wont REALLY like me no matter what they claim. i don't know what to do i just wish that she wouldn't be able to make me so mad. i wish i wouldn't get so mad i know i have some anger problems. but the only reason i get so frustrated is that i care and she doesn't seem to understand or care how i feel.

Answer 1

I'm going to tell you exactly what you probably do'nt want to hear but its the truth. Her parents probably won't take you back. When a man hits a girl it frowned upon by everyone! Even though she hurt you physically you should never ever hit a girl no matter what they do. She is emotionally unstable! Obviously if she isn't taking her medications of course she is going to be! You have to respect that her parents just want whats best for her as do you.. But hitting and arguing doesn't solve anything. .. . You could try to fix things but it will be extremely difficult... Although you were trying to help in the beginning you ended it with a wrong decision. I understand you really love this girl and your anger just got out of control, but how does she feel about you? Does she still want to see you? still want to be with you? do you love her enough to continue this crazy drama for the rest of your life?? Take a step back. If you still want to be with her you need to fix things.. But don't fix things fast. and it still may not work. You have to understand that time is the one thing that can heal anything...If she still loves you and you love her things will eventually even out as long as you give her and her family space to breathe and get the situation under control. There are only a couple steps you can do to try to revive things. Call her parents.... call her... Fess up. Tell them exactly what you did was wrong. Apologize. Say you were out of control and you messed up. DO NOT DEFEND YOURSELF saying that she hit you first, and she did all these bad things and you were just trying to stop it. People will always defend themselves when you criticize them. Instead of telling them that you just wanted good just apologize let them hear what they want to hear. This will improve things slowly. Maybe they will hang up on you.. But call back.. leave a message.. Call until you get an answer and are able to apologize and say you realized you screwed up. Speically talk to her parents they are the decision makers. After you do this all you can really do is wait.! give it 3 weeks or so then call back and check progress.... Things can't fix themselves immediatley. If this doesn't work always try a year from now. Its hard for people to forgive and forget but time mends everything. If you realize that this relationship is unhealthy ( which it is) then you should move on. You realize you can find someone else who will treat you right and not lie to you behind your back.... Find someone else who is better suited to your needs.. Start over and not have the haunting past come back in every conversation. This is the route I would go if I were in your position because you have a lot of hearts and minds to bend back into shape.... I'm not saying you should give up but really think about what would be better for you. You can get over her if you try... It is possible. Anything is possible. So keep your chin up and keep on trucking. I'm sorry if this isn't exactly what you wanted to hear but it is the truth. Good luck in whatever path you choose

Answer 2

do you have any clue why she is on meds or behaves the way she does? Sounds like there might be some trust issues going on with her that need to be dealt with first before you can really have a long-lasting healthy relationship. I would suggest trying to sit down together with her first and then maybe her and her family next to talk about what all happened and why. Ask for their forgiveness and let them know you forgive her and them too. But you be the bigger person and take the first steps towards reconciliation.

Answer 3

You are not the one for them to be mad at explain that to them you are the one that was just honest to them that should count for something. There daughter is the one they need to be pissed
at maybe they should of said well if our doughter isn't going to school or taking her meds don't tell us because we will take it out on you. I'm sorry it seems you have met another dysfunctional
family like most but if this is really bothering you it's time to speak to your GF and maybe have a mutual breakup if this is going to be the only way to resolve this crap or maybe just some time apart for a few weeks until things simmer down. God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 4

u dont need to be mad she needs help and if she wont get it its good that etleast her parent know. talk to her and ask her why shes acting like this. u need to do some serious thinking about ure relationship because she lieing, stealing,she abusive, and not goin to school. i say let her go before she drags u down if she loves u she will change and u didn't do anything wrong

Answer 5

Your girlfriend comes from an unhealthy family, no doubt. I'd break up with her and move on to find another girl, someone you can have a HEALTHY relationship with, and the parents like and respect you. Good luck!

Answer 6

ok ok, just relax. ur starting to sound like me right before i tried to kill myself, so just settle down. at least u told her parents the truth, and maybe ur girl will be able to see the good u did in a week or month or so. dont do anything rash about this. ur girl will come back. just dont let her hit u anymore

Answer 7

This is a totally disfunctional relationship! One of you needs to get away before this goes any further! One of you or both will end up hurt very badly &/or in jail with a permanant record to follow you the rest of your lives.