I met a guy last week. We went on our first date and have spent every night together since (8days). I have never been in a situation like this before. I enjoy his company and I know he enjoys mine. We share allot of thw same views on life and marriage & children and we both seem to want to setlle down. We have gone out for dinner, met family and freinds, slept at each others house since the first date last week, so we havent had any alone time at all. It has been great but I am feeling like I need my space. We did have one night without each other and he ended up coming over after he wet out with his friends. The next day after he left my place he called from home and said he was doing allot of thinking about us and wanted some space. He said things were moving way to quickly and that we would hang out in a few days and slow things down. I dont know what to make of this. It was him who wanted to see me every night, be exclusive and not date others. What does this all mean?
2006-11-27 03:43:08 · 20 answers · asked by starnickel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well just give hime some space, and let him know that you have a life outside of him. im pretty sure his friends been telling him things male can somtimes be ****es around there friends. so make him miss you bad. if space he wants then give it to him. go out with your friends have fun you dont want to be the type of girls thats too press and easy all the time, it give him nothing to look forward to because he already know s he can have it/you. to keep tht from happing keep him on your time.. sometimes you might want to see him but tell him ur busy, your doing something with your family. when you do spend time togeher make sure you make it short maybe2-3 hrs a day then you make your exit, make sure you look really good everytime you see him so that way he can think about u when u leave. no matter what he says you ahve to leave beacuse if you dont then he;ll think he has rapped around you finger.he says jump you say how high, like a little doggie an you dont want that.because no one wants something they know they can have they want something tht they have to work hard to have that way they know its worht it. well try it out and let me know how it goes
2006-11-27 04:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by butta77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my fiance when I went to the club. The next day we moved in together. After 3 years we would argue and fight. I think when you first start a relationship you need to give yourselves time to get to know each other first. You both need space because going into things to quickly might make you grow apart quickly. If you don't see each other for a day or two that allows you both time to miss each other. Then when you see each other again it is very special. Beginning a new relationship takes time. Don't just jump into it not knowing everything about each other. And remember that you both have friends that want to spend time with you to.
2006-11-27 03:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by jautis02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a big deal. It was probably really fun and interesting to spend all that time together, just getting to know each other, but it would not be to healthy for you to just continue down that road.
It will not give you any time to miss each other and plus it wont give you much time to have you own lives.
Slow things down a bit, and see what happens from there. Let the relationship grow, dont rush it or you might be blinded and not be able to see the real sides of him and he of you.
As long as he is not saying he does not want to see you at all, then maybe his intentions are just to slow things down a bit. I mean think about it.. Not to say he does not like you, but he probably had some time to think, wow what are we doing, I only know this woman a week and already we are talking about settling down and the future. Thats scary to anybody, not only a man.
2006-11-27 03:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang on a second!!
So you were feeling like you needed space and said nothing, then when he raises this as a concern.........you don't know what to make of it and don't understand?
Ok, maybe he is being genuine. Just maybe he really does think that spending every night together for a week is cramming too much in to a short space of time. When a relationship is new, you need space and time to reflect, appreciating the absence of eachother and looking forward to seeing them again.
You can't miss someone if they live in your pocket..........you both need to get on with the lives you were leading before you met eachother and catch up a few days later. Even if it's just a phonecall to say "Hi".
Enjoy having your space, you'll appreciate eachother more for it.
2006-11-27 03:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a good idea. It will put the two of you in a safe place where both of you can know each other better without crossing the line, specially if both of you were not ready yet for total committment to each other. Have you got any idea how passion works in a tempting situation? I'll give you a hint, very often, people are caught up where they knew too well but not smart enough to get out of that trap. Only smart people escape that trap. And these are the PEOPLE WHO LOOK BEFORE THEY LEAP.
2016-03-28 21:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation sounds way too deep for only a week of dating. Space is good for both of you right now. A couple days away from each other will be nothing but good, actually.
He sounds like he is still into you, so don't worry.
If a guy wants to see you every night for the first week, he sounds like he has some insecurity issues. More independence is needed from both of you.
2006-11-27 03:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't it feel good to be with someone who you think is your soulmate, and yes it could happen in 8 days. I wouldn't make to much of it of him wanting to take it slow, take that as something good. He didn't say that he wanted to call the whole thing off, and him letting you meet his family is always a plus. Just take it day by day and see how it goes. Give him space if he needs it, plus that will give you time to see if this is what you really want. I know it's easier said than done. I hope I have helped. Good luck to you!
2006-11-27 03:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by sweetme35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical guy....seriously. They initiate and get your feelings all involved and then they back off or all of a sudden "we're moving too fast" but anyways :) It seems like you both were thinking the same thing as far as needing space, the only thing is that he beat you to the punch....so he wants space give it to him...make plans with your girlfriends, family and anybody else. Even if it is to your mom's house for an hour or so. Just so that when he does call you to hook up, you are not readily available. It's like a reality check to him to know that when you are not together, you are not at home pining away for him to call or comeover :) Hope this helps....
p.s. You will never have to stop doing this either, I still have to do it occasionally with my bf
2006-11-27 03:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by fiveftelevenqt 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It does sound like it is going to fast and you two need to come up for air. Slow down and see how things work out. It's better to slow down now. If you go on the way it is going now you are going to over look the parts of this relationship that you don't like. Then end up getting hurt in the end.
2006-11-27 03:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's right to slow things down. You said yourself that you need space too. Too much togetherness can be smothering. Did he say to date others? You didn't say how old you are but, if you see too much of each other, you could get tired of each other. So, yes, slow down. That doesn't mean you will lose him. Give it some time.
2006-11-27 03:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋