Why don't men ever "officially" break-up with a woman?

Question

I understand the going out a few times does not constitute a relationship, so "blowing someone off" in that case is not always the "nicest" thing, but it is perfectly acceptable. But, if you date someone for an extended period of time and then decide that you no longer want to, the grown-up, considerate thing to do is just say so. Why do men just grow more and more distant, then just sort of go away? I am not saying that all men do this, but a whole lot of them do. Women need closure...It's a lot like an "exit interview" with a job or something.

Answer 1

I agree. I had one just not turn up for our date, then claim it was a misunderstanding, then not answer his phone for 3 weeks, then claim he'd been ill, he'd lost his phone, etc etc etc, because he wasn't man enough to finish it!
It's cowardice - I agree we need closure - men, tell us you don't want to see us anymore then we can move on!

Answer 2

Men aren't the only ones who do this, women do it as well. One of the reasons for this is once they start to lose attraction for their partner, or figure out that it isn't going to work out for whatever reason, they automatically start to drift. They often feel it would be better for the other person to break things off, thus making it "mutual" when they are the ones who should have just been honest in the first place. It doesn't matter how a relationship is broken up; "official" or "unofficial" will still hurt. Closure may be easier if you can view the other person as having hurt you, but no matter what it will just take time.

Answer 3

I doubt this possibility, though I do not know what you really mean by the word depth, but I think, neither a man can fully understand a woman nor a woman can understand a man, because there is a difference in the basic nature of both the man and the woman, and both actually represent a basically different mentality. I personally think, a man's basic nature is to give and a woman's basic nature is to receive, but this give and take never happens harmoniously, because the masculine ego persists to give, in his own way whereas the feminine ego wants to receive in her own style, as a result a man begins to love through the mind and a woman begins to think with the heart. So both think and blame each other for the misunderstanding that exists between them as a result of their unawareness about the above mentioned fact. So I also think, in a relationship that is harmonious, the question to understand each other does not even arise.

Answer 4

The society has so many rules of etiquette that prevents people from expressing their true thoughts to others. If we were to cite the true reasons, men would almost always appear as monsters according to these ridiculous standards fit for a victorian morality.

Also I think people who place a whole less importance on what another person thinks of themselves. If your definition of yourself is clear you wouldn't be so eager for closure.

By the way, would anyone be super excited for an exit interview?

Answer 5

My fiance broke up with me about 2 years ago. He started seeing another woman, but he wanted me back. I asked him why didn't he just tell her that he didn't want to see her again and he said he wasn't man enough. I guess it is just in thier nature to walk away without saying anything because sometimes it would hurt them if it was a long term relationship. Or they might not have a very good reason to break it off, just that they feel like being single.

Answer 6

Actually I just did this recently, so I can answer from personal experience. Sometimes, you still care about the girl/woman so you don't want to see her cry in front of you or get hysterical. I tried to break up with my now ex about 6 times. She went nuts and wouldn't leave my house. I took her back each time. After that though, I just acted as if we weren't together. I distanced myself in hopes that SHE WOULD BREAK UP WITH ME. Unfortunately, it never happened and I had to break up with her over the phone two nights ago.

Answer 7

Because some people just arent ready for a commited relationship and most people just look for the easiest way out of a hard situation where they dont want to be responsible for it. As to the person above saying "we enjoy the sex" get a life please if your that shallow and thats all you want out of a woman then your pretty much a fool.

Answer 8

I agree with you... The same thing happens to me with women... I much prefer someone to be brutally honest with me and tell me they no longer feel for me than to just be dragged along wondering what I should be feeling...

Unfortunately, I don't have an answer for you... Sometimes its easier to grow distant...maybe they don't want to hurt your feelings... Its just a lack of experience and someones consideration... Just be straight forward and honest... Its the only way...

Good luck!!!

Answer 9

I believe that men do this either because they fear that they are going to hurt you and they do not want to phisically see you get hurt, or they do this because they fear that you will get angry at them. Men are so difficult (which is probably what they say about us). If there is any way that you can comfort him with his problem of "public speaking" then he might explain his reasons for his actions. If he doesn't then he denately did not deserve your time and energy. good luck

Answer 10

haha no kidding. This happened to me over the summer after seeing a guy for about 7 months. I even asked him what was going on several times and he told me to wait it out... rah