I still live at home and my friend is getting married....she send a personal invite to my house for my married younger sister and then also sent an invite to the rest of the family. How should the RSVP be handled....I might want to bring my current BF should I include that in my "families" number and should I buy the bride and groom a gift as I am personally friends with them both.
Also should I be offended that I wasn't invited personally?
2006-11-27 03:40:33 · 8 answers · asked by McRach 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should include your BF in the number of people coming from your family in the RSVP. I think I would have been offended if my good friend invited my sister but not me personally in the invitation. why did'nt she send it to you and include your sister in the " rest of the family"? I'd just let it slide though and just wish your friend and her hubby wishes for a long life together. This is'nt bad enough to ruin your friends day over.Yes,you should buy them a gift too.
2006-11-27 03:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Diana W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your married sister should RSVP for herself and her husband.
If you're over 18, then you should have gotten your own invitation separate from your parents. However, your friend may not know this. So forgive that and don't be offended.
You and your family should RSVP only for you and those in your family who are attending. DO NOT include your boyfriend, unless it was specified (on the invitation) that you could bring a guest. If no guest is specified, then your boyfriend is not invited. And it would be inappropriate to add him on RSVP and even more inappropriate to bring him to the wedding.
Also I would caution against calling the bride and asking her if it's okay to bring your current boyfriend. It puts her in an uncomfortable situation. Weddings are stressful enough without people questioning her plans. She and her groom have spent a lot of time working on the guest lists. And usually not everyone can be included. If you ask her, she might feel uncomfortable and not want to hurt your feelings or not know how to respond, so she might give in. Thereby altering her plans (guest count for food, seating arrangment, etc.). Don't put her in this uncomfortable situation.
If it were me, I would buy a gift for the couple myself. And let the rest of the family get their own.
2006-11-27 04:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by mrssamikeyp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is odd that she sent two invitations to the same house. Maybe she didn't have the address for your married sister, but knew you all would get it to her, and in this case you shouldn't be offended. At least you still got invited! Ask the bride if it is okay if you bring your bf, because sometimes it's hard on the couple financially when everyone brings a date. I would buy one gift for the couple, because they are a couple now, and should be willing to recieve gifts as such. Weddings are about the joining of two people, one gift echos that sentiment. Go and have a good time!
2006-11-27 04:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly proper, the inside envelope should state just who in the "family" is invited. If it has your name listed, and doesn't say "and guest" after it, your boyfriend isn't invited.
Your sister should RSVP to her own invitation.
No, you shouldn't be offended that you weren't invited personally since you still live at home. They could have sent you a separate one, but as someone said, they are expensive! It would be nice if you could give them a gift from yourself, but if you would rather go in with your family that is fine, too.
2006-11-28 00:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider the others who say which you're *no longer* out of line. Weddings (& funerals, & holidays) carry out the worst in human beings. there have been people who have been quite insulted by the no childrens rule at our wedding ceremony, yet nonetheless, those are additionally a similar people who would comprise their childrens, and then b*tch concerning the nutrients no longer being solid sufficient, jointly as their childrens run around disrupting each and every physique else (it takes a village, do no longer ya understand...). fortuitously those human beings have been too insulted to even come. If dad and mom can not cope with to pay for babysitters or don't have somebody to reveal screen their infants, then they in all hazard are not waiting to be dad and mom. How do they bypass to artwork? What occurs if there is an emergency? So I call crap on people who say they only can no longer get somebody to reveal screen their infants.
2016-10-04 10:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that since your sister is married she got her own invitation. She has started her own family, I think you would have gotten your own invite if you were married too.
You should include your bf on your RSVP if you plan on taking him and you should buy a gift.
2006-11-27 03:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should include your date with the invitation you are included on. you shouldn't be mad because you didn't get a personal invite. invitations are very expensive, just be glad she didn't call to invite you! you should buy them a gift together not separately. if anything, after an expensive wedding, money is a good gift.
2006-11-27 03:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that you should bring your boyfriend unless it has a plus one. The fact that you were not invited personally might just be because you live with your parents. You need to ask your friend about bringing your boyfriend...it is her wedding.
2006-11-27 03:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by jonina_h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋