Everything was fine until they got married. She had two children and my son had one. The night they got married, she accused me of playing favorites with the children. This was not so. My husband and I loved all of them. When we would have holidays, she wouldn't let me have the dinners at my house. She wanted to do it. I finally gave in to that. I found out that she was being mean to my blood grandson and the fight was on. Of course she denied it, but even her own children told me. My grandson finally went to the authorities and he was removed from the home. I received a phone call from my son and got all the blame. I had nothing to do with it. She has my son right where she wants him. She owns everything(supposedly for taxes) and her brothers are pres. and vpres of the union that my son works for. I will admit that she was good for my son and got his life on the right path, but she has torn my whole family apart. We no longer have family get togethers.
2006-11-27 03:38:55 · 9 answers · asked by ktequilacat@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She cant make your son stay away from you. You are blaming her when he is the one who has to put a stop to it. He is the one not her who must say no i will see my parents and if he doesnt then there's not much you can do.
2006-11-27 03:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your son without telling anything to your daughter-in-law. For one, it was a big mistake to let his wife own everything. Find a way to fix that, and also, if you need to, talk to your son and see what you can do about getting your grandson back, and maybe getting a case together against your daughter in law. But first, you need your son's consent. If his wife doesn't respect you, make him see that she isn't worth being with then. Unless he sees what is going on, you are powerless.
2006-11-27 03:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Classic tale of wedding and betrayal - sorry but the only thing you can do is try to help your blood grandchild by contacting social services to arrange temp custody (possibly permanent) and be sure your son knows you love him. He made his decision and no matter how it pains you just wait - it will play the way it's supposed to. The best thing now is be there for your grandchild he needs you more than your son. Good Luck!
2006-11-27 03:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow i am so sorry this is happening to you i love my mother in law dearly and yes sometimes she can get a little crazy but i love my man far to much to rip him apart from his family ....i don't understand why your son would put the blame on you she must be brain washing him you should try your best to talk to him or them alone and work it out some how for your family's sake .let her understand that you love the children all the same kids are kids they have no fault in the world .and let her know you care for her and would love for the family to be family again life is to short to have bickering going on in families good luck
2006-11-27 03:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by mari 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your question is a sad one.Yes she does have him right now where she wants him. this has to be bad for you especially at theholiday season.
From what you say here, he is really sort of like in prison. he is dammed no matter what he does in that realtionship.
Best hope for him is that someday he will get enough guts to take charge and start telling her what is to happen.
Dont worry, it will come. the day is coming he wil tire of all this.
There is no doubt in my mind that he is not sufferning inside for what has happen.
one never knows what tomorrow will bring. It may all end and he will see the light. lets hope so and good luck there.
2006-11-27 03:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your daughter in law is presumably happy with ur son. Your son is married to ur daughter in law and what is ur problem ?? let them live together happily. Marriages are made for husbands and wives to live with happily and not for the son and the mother live together and harass the daughter in law!! Sorry!! It may hurt u and these are the practical solutions for ur problem. Please learn to live and let live!!
2006-11-27 03:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by dhandusridharan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This must be so hard on you I am so sorry.
But you have to accept the fact ur son is choosing not to see you, he has the choice
2006-11-27 03:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what no one can take your son away from you except him ,he needs to be a man and tell her he wants you to be a part of his life don't blame her unless she is holding him hostage
2006-11-27 03:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR BLAMING THE WRONG PERSON. IF YOUR SON HAS THE BALLS HE WAS BORN WITH, HE WOULD BE VISITING YOU WHENEVER HE CHOOSE!! TALK TO YOUR WHIMPY SON, LEAVE HER OUT OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 03:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋