What would u do? What would u say?

Question

I used to date this guy back in 8th grade. Well yrs pasted on and i had moved to a different city but we would meet up every time i wennt to visit.
He would pick me up at all hours or when he came to visit my city would come to visit me and stay with me and would drive hours to go pick me up from where i was to stay with him. Well after the last time i saw him he left back home and i called him one night and left him a message about everything and went to bed.
Wel the next day he called me with his gf on the line, Which i never knew he even had, and told me to never call him again, to get out of his life, and that i ruined his life and he didnt want anything to do with me.
Well 2 yrs have passed by and he sent me this message to my myspace...."hey girl, i just wanted to say say im sorry about what happened in the past. you mean alot to me and i dont want to lose that. you look beautiful as ever! you take care of yourself ok.

what do should i say to him???

See me and him were friends for so long and than dated and continued to stay friends throughout it all.

His gf got the message that night i left it on his phone and not sure if she made him say those things or not.

i ran into him a couple of weeks ago when i was visiting and said hi when he came up but ignored him the rest of the night. Now 2 weeks later he sends this email. And it was sent at 3 something in the morning which makes me think maybe he was drunk or something.

Answer 1

Nothing.

I wouldn't even acknowledge him. If he "played you out" like that, then he'll probably do it again. Furthermore, the guy is a liar and a cheater who thinks he's some kind of player. He's not. If he was, he wouldn't have tried to make it look like it was YOUR FAULT for "CHASING" him! He had to "prove" to his girlfriend that he was innocent and that you're some kind of psycho who has a sort of "fatal attraction" type of thing for him.

You may care for him, but it's obvious you're not stalking him, right? You're supposed to be somewhat friends, right? So, why is he trippin' on you like that? Why didn't he tell his girlfriend that you were just friends and tell you that he couldn't be intimate with you anymore? Because he's deceitful that's why. He got caught and he put the blame for HIS ACTIONS on you. Let him go. Don't even make him beg. Don't listen to anymore LIES!

It's obvious that he's still attracted to you, but why? Ask him what does he want? Don't ask him what does he want from you, because the lie that he'll tell will be too easy. Put him on the spot. Make him think about the question. Just ask, "What do you want?" He won't know if you're talking about from you, or in a relationship, or out of life, or what. And don't let him put you on the spot by trying to figure out your own question! Just be cool and calm and repeat the question. While he's thinking about it and trying to "figure it out", then tell him, "I'll tell you what. When you figure it out call me and let me know. I don't have time for games." Or, say, "I've got better things to do than waste my time with someone that don't want nothin'." And go on about your business.

Remember, you haven't been close to this guy, so you really don't know how he thinks, what his past has been since you haven't been together, or who he's been with, or what. All you know is that he's a liar, a cheater, a wannabee player, and that he's trying to use you for his "convenience" - his plaything. If you don't mind that, then keep kickin' it with him.

Brother DzL (AsP)
"The Player's Lifestyle"

Answer 2

You should be thankful that after all the b*llsh*t that his ex-girlfriend started, that he still had you on his mind all this time. He apologized for something he didn't start (but didn't stop) and wishes to make amends. Because the most important thing to him is respecting you as a person.

Can you count how many times that happens to anyone you know?

Zilch.

Write him back and forgive him. When you see him personally, slap him upside the head and tell him to be a little firm in defending a friend and then give him a BIG SLOPPY KISS ON THE LIPS!

He'll love it.

Answer 3

His girlfriend at the time probably got your message you left and put him up to saying those terrible things to you. Women are like that you guys are very possessive and insecure at times. Deep down he loves you. He came crawling back.

I think you should hear him out and if his story adds up, give him a probation period and watch him closely. Then make your decision.

Answer 4

that is really weird. i would leave him alone. since its been 2yrs and now he's saying i want you back...he probably broke up with that girl. being with him now is just alot of baggage and he might turn on you again with another girl you didn't know about. its an emotional rollercoaster, girl. first he shows he likes you, you give in, now he turns on you, then he comes back all sweet again. get off the ride before you throw up!

Answer 5

Dont message me again,,,get out of my life,,,you have ruined what I thought was a really good thing,,I dont want anymore to do with you.

Answer 6

He told you to stay out of his life and that is just what you should do. Don't even respond to him. He had a lot of nerve talking to you the way he did.

Answer 7

"You were dishonest with me in the past, so why would I take anything you say now to heart? You wanted me out of your life, and two years have passed. I'm out, and now you should stay out of my life, you selfish brat"
Sounds about right to me...

Answer 8

Clearly his girlfriend and he have split up. Tell him you are not a "fill in" for when he is feeling bored or lonely.

Answer 9

He isn't worth your time. Ignore him. Better yet, block him from your page. There is no excuse for him to allow his GF to go off on you like that! Worse yet, he listened in on it. What a jerk. Please block him from your page.

Answer 10

I would either NOT respond at all or tell him "Thanks, hope all is well with you, too." He totally dissed you. I would not be eager to let him back in my life. It's been two years, let sleeping dogs lie.