Someone is sitting at a table sharing a Thanksgiving meal. One family member observes another family member snuggling with her boyfriend. So the family member says to the younger, obviously in love family member, "So, when are you guys getting married?"
That was me. I was rude? You're kidding right? I don't get it....
Please explain....how is this rude?
I was curious....They've been dating for awhile and make a perfect couple....did I miss something??????
2006-11-27 03:17:55 · 15 answers · asked by tikizgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some people don't like to be put on the spot, especially with a lot of other people around.
Maybe it's a subject that they want to discuss in private. Maybe her boyfriend was planning to ask her and feels that you may have ruined the moment.
Offer your apologies and say that your question was inappropriate for the moment, but that you were curious because they look like the perfect couple and that you see them being married in the future.
2006-11-27 03:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by tipper 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its extremely poor manners to be "snuggling" at the dinner table. That's whats rude. Only immature teens or simple minded adults can't control their emotions and keeping their hands off one another constantly. The "younger obvious in love female" needs some lessons in appropriate conduct. Holiday feasts are a gathering of family for good food and conversation. Not for making a spectacle of yourselves over dinner in front of anyone else.
Quite frankly perhaps the person who asked the question was being facetious. Mature persons do not make sickening lovey-dovey displays such as you have described when in good company. This only shows the child-like level this individual possesses when it comes to a serious and meaningful relationship. lets hope Christmas won't be the same. I have no doubt this female is the talk of the family because of this display. Talk to her and point out the error of her ways. She has one more shot in December to set things right and act civil.
2006-11-27 11:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it runs along the same idea as asking the question, "So when are you going to have kids?" Lots of couples stay together for awhile before getting married, and maybe they haven't even discussed it with each other yet which would make it a little embarrasing for them. It is a sort of private matter unless they make it public that they have been talking about it.
2006-11-27 11:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by zippy p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked the same thing at a open house with my niece and her live in man. Although I asked it in a joking manner I just wanted to let him know that they were both getting on (almost 30) and they needed to settle down and begin a family soon if they wanted kids. I personally do not believe that what you asked was offensive and as a member of the family you had every right to ask that, especially if you know them both pretty well.
2006-11-27 11:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well some people find such direct questions nosy and offensive. If you wanted to know that badly you should have asked them sometime away from the others. That way you would not have embarrassed them or put them on the spot.
2006-11-27 11:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
people just dont like the pressure. it wasnt so much as rude as it was embarassing. its like forcing them into the relationship faster, and so they might not know how to answer without the other person getting mad, like "what do you mean, soon! or, what do you mean later!" they will talk about it in their own time when they are alone. its just embarassing and alil pressuring.
2006-11-27 11:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by harasgirl2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasnt rude honey it was just you being fun and nice.
Although i can see why it made them feel uncomfortable.
Just apologise and say you were having a joke, you didnt mean it in a bad way.
Good luck xx
2006-11-27 11:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
heeeey that was bad!
lol! look they r datin for a while and only cuz u think they make a lovely couple it doesnt mean they HAVE 2 marry.
uh u said somethin totally sad. sry =)
2006-11-27 12:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by keen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, it is rude. it's pushy and it's none of your business. your life will be easier if you vow never to say- when are you getting married? when are you having kids? and when are you due?(in case the person isnot pregnant, just overweight)
2006-11-27 11:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they were the ones who were rude. it they werenot snuggle infront everyone and saved it for they bedroom, u would not have ask the question at that moment.
2006-11-27 11:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by ms attitude 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋