Me and my boyfriend of three years just broke up on Friday and im finding it hard to get over the break up because we never fought. I need some help this problem because i still love him.
2006-11-27 03:12:08 · 10 answers · asked by moriconiashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just broke up a few days ago. Of course you're not over it yet.
I think the biggest mistake people make after a breakup is not allowing themselves to mourn the loss of something significant in their lives.
If you loved this guy, it's going to take more than a few days to get over it. You need to recognize what happened, and why. If you're able to talk to him about it to get answers, do it. If not, you're going to have to reconcile the issues on your own.
And do NOT just jump into a new relationship to get over this one. You need to learn to deal with this sort of thing, because loss will occur plenty of times throughout your life.
G/L
2006-11-27 03:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by CutiePie1707 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course you still love him, you had a relationship with him for 3 years. But hey they easiest thing I have found is that when they say it is over, let it be over. Just move on. Do not dwell on what you had because it is gone. Even if her were to come back it would never be quite the same. It does not even really matter why. The fact is he left, so now just concentrate on yourself and work on making you happy again. Go out with friends, spend time with family, go shopping, go on a short vacation. Just do what makes you feel good.
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 03:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is to remain active so you don't have a chance to think about it. Otherwise you'll become emotionally immobilized. Try and stay involved with your friends and family and get involved in social issues like volunteering, working out, taking a yoga/pilates class, taking a foreign language course, etc. It depends on what your interests are. It's okay to miss him but you don't want your whole world to revolve around him. Life does go on.
2006-11-27 03:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by bookworm1171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wasnt meant to be there someone for everyone just keep your mind off it go out there and u might find your real true love i know its hard because u still love him but dont let him take the best of u i know theres a hole in your heart so fill it with laughter and a new man it seems like its impossible but know its really his lost not yours maybe he will realize a mistake he made and by then you will have moved on hopefully
2006-11-27 03:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and its not a good place to be. I hated being sad and angry. But how I got over him was time and just remembering the good the bad and the worst. Trust me it does get better after awhile. Just find someone who will treat u good and who u love and who loves u back. And u will find someone like that I have and I will always love him.
2006-11-27 03:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with family and friends. You need their support right now. I know it's very hard to get over a lost love. But, hang on, and know that you will get through this.
Are there any other guys in your past that you once loved and got over? Remembering that you got over those relationships can help you remember that, as painful as it is, you can get over this one.
2006-11-27 03:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Picasso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard me and my boyfriend broke up recently too and it is very hard to get over especially with the holidays and everything. I guess you should cry your eyes out and eat lots of ice cream until one day you can't cry anymore and you meet someone wonderful. What ever you do don't talk to him it only makes it worse.
2006-11-27 03:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to have fun in your new Single Life... there is a lot to do when you are single. Call your Girlfriends to hang out, tell them what happened and share with them. Go traveling out of the States to a new country. Ex: Europe, Asia etc.... Only time will heal, just need to keep yourself busy and learning new things. It should be a good idea to find out why you guys ended and learn from it. Finding dates, and go have fun with them... Do not get serious with any of them, until you feel ready to go for a serious relationship. It is unfair for guys to fall inlove with a girl who is not available emotionally for them, so be HONEST and TRUTHFUL to them and tell them you just got out from a long serious relationship. (do no find dates online, go find them the traditional way, through your friends, parties and make sure they are not just some player who just want to sleep with you... unless that is what you want)
2006-11-27 03:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by xaviery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's his loss,that's how you look at it.true you still love him but you don't want to be with some one who doesn't want to be with you.be grateful he told you and you didn't find out the other way.well I guess it's on to new journeys and a better romance because you should have learned things about YOU from this relationship and thats always good info.have fun and don't dwell on what's not meant to be, it only means you are closer to your true love now.
2006-11-27 04:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why he broke up with you. Have a friend talk to him and ask him why. If he doesn't have an answer he is a jerk. If his answer is 'I like someone else' he is again a jerk. If he says 'I just want to see if she really likes me and will follow me' he is AGAIN a jerk.
2006-11-27 03:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Just an Actress 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋