I am 18yrs. old and I am going to college right noww...everything is perfect for me except for the fact that i am pregant ...i don't know what to do. i know that i should take resposibilities for my actions but i am too young too do that. what should i do?...what would you do?....besides my parents would literally kill me....my boyfriends leaves me descicons up to me.
2006-11-27 03:07:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you are correct in needing to take responsibility for your actions. But, you need to ultimately decide for yourself. You should really talk with your bf and your parents. Yes, they may be upset at first, but they will help you in any way possible. Believe me! I know! As for college, you can still finish out the rest of the year (depending on how far along you are). After the baby is born, go ahead and sign up for the next semester! I'm sure that your parents would help out. What do you want to do? I know it's hard, but you will make it work! Everyone can give you advice, but it's strictly your decision to make! I wish you all the best of luck and wishes!
2006-11-27 03:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by KrisJH24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same situation, my first year of college and pregnant, I thought my parents would not understand, but I told them and they reacted better then I thought. Now I am a single mother, living with my parents but planning on going back to school soon. This is one of the hardest decisions you will ever had to make, but no one can tell you what to do. Do what is in your heart and what you think is best for you. My heart goes out for you because I know what you are feeling. Truly Good Luck To You!!!
2006-11-27 11:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by boredgirl21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say you have a few options---
1)Put the child up for adoption after birth.
2)Take responsibility for your actions and raise the child.
3)Make the biggest mistake of your life and kill the child...i mean abort it.
If you are seriously unable to get anyone to help you raise the child and feel that it will destroy your life, then giving it up for adoption will be the best alternative. There are many couples out there that cannot have children and would do anything for a chance to get a child.
Just remember you've already made one mistake...don't make another and kill the child.
2006-11-27 11:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by Merk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that I'm not a girl but the best advice i can give to you is; To have the baby and train it right it wont be easy bot always think about after, When the baby get older he will take care for you,
2006-11-27 11:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Pharaoh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no one can tell you what to do and if you let them make this decision for you you will regret it. honestly i would never chose an abortion its morally wrong but thats just me. If i truly didnt want the child i would have the baby and then put it up for adoption if you keep the baby when you really dont want it you may resent the baby. you can try an open adoption which will allow you to mantain contact with your baby. Just listen to your heart and do what you know is right. dont let anyone change your mind. its your life but its also your babies life to.
2006-11-27 11:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you want to hear? Good advice or something that you agree with?
1) Get an abortion ASAP don't let all the do gooder pro-lifers rant you into having it. An abortion will scar you a lot less than having a baby and giving it away.
2) Dump your bf - if you refuse to do that at least redefine your relationship and next time USE BIRTH CONTROL!!
2006-11-27 11:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I hate to say this because I have a daughter at 20 and I am a single parent but you should have an abortion and not have kids until you are married and it's a planned thing one day. If your boyfriend plans to marry you then you can have the baby but do not become a single mother it is too hard and a lot of responsibility.
2006-11-27 11:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well you really need to decide what is best for you,, if you can handle this at this time in your life.. its a big step and you need to really think about this before you act. Find someone to talk to and trust in your parents... It will really make you feel better.. ever need to talk or vent
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2006-11-27 11:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what u feel is right its no ones choice but your own. ive thought about what i would do if something like this happened to me and im quite academic so going to uni can open up many doors for me. but the one thing out of life i want the most is to have kids and if i had to chose between aborting a baby or going to uni id pick my kid everytime. but thats what i think its totally up to you what u shud do. good luck xxx
2006-11-27 11:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by just a girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first tell your parents and be totally honest with them. second are you and your boyfriend ready for a commitment to be parents and thirdly i would have the baby and if your not ready for such a commitment then i would put the baby up for adoption and last but not least i would never have sex again unless you and your boyfriend used protection
2006-11-27 13:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋