Boyfriend troubles, should we break up?

Question

I have been dating this guy for almost four months. I really care about him alot, moreover i could say i love him. But he is this completly serious person. He really doesn't care if someone doesn't like him, and he never apologizes. He can be really amazing but he is also a real asshole sometimes. HE doesn't ever call, and he has no interest in seeing me. I haven't spent more than five minutes talking to him in three whole weeks! We don't ever fight but I cry about the way he treats me all the time. I really want to talk to him about it, but he has been avoiding me! Everyone says we should break up and that he is mentally abusive. But he is just a serious guy. What should i do?

I have decided not to have any contact with him for one whole week, on the comment his mother mad, "maybe you are hovering too much?"
He has no idea how i feel though!
~thanks

*pouts* I have been crying because everybody says to break up! *pouts*
I love him! Wahh.
lol
yeah I know thanks

(ahem) *coughs* I don't think he loves me, we never say it. I mean i am wiling to do anything to work this out, until I do realize he doesn't give a ****. (he once made a comment, women outnumber men, 10-1, why stress over one person)

Answer 1

don't talk to him in for one week,

:> peace
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Answer 2

The "He Doesn't Care If Someone Doesn't Like Him" And The "He Never Apologizes" are not really that big of a problem, it's just another lifestyle out of the whole bunch, everyone has their own lifestyle... but the "he doesn't ever call" is maybe because he doesn't just go a'head and do things you know, like he wants you to call him, cuz maybe he doesn't call you cuz he's afraid if you won't like him anymore if he called like in a non-comfortable time, or anything like that... boys always have that, i have that, that's why i know, you must just tell him how u feel, and what you think is just wrong about him and LISTEN what he's got to say, maybe he doesn't just find him self wrong, if that's so, you make him feel he's wrong and he has to change, and ask him if he loves you as well, it's in ur hands, the better you do, the better way it goes... don't break up, it doesn't worth it... Trust Me... u just have to drive things into better situations... GUD LUCK!

Answer 3

Oh my goodness, I can't understand why you are still going out with him? Actually, it doesn't sound like you are going anywhere with him and you deserve so much better. Are you afraid you won't be able to find someone else and being alone? I think you are already alone and you need to put yourself out there so that you CAN find someone else and be happy. This guy is truly no good and you seem to be a very bright young lady so cut the stings you have with this guy and move on. Maybe try finding someone with a conscience. Good-luck sweetie and don't wait, life is too short.

Answer 4

It just isn't worth it.

It is always a bad sign when the guy is not putting effort into the relationship. It means that he isn't concerned with the relationship and doesn't care...or is just ready to leave.

There is no reason to waste time on the relationship. If he wants to be with you he needs to act like it. Show that you're the type of person that deserves to be treated well and won't stand for anything less.

Answer 5

Yea u should break up with him...u deserve someone who cares more about u. Its only been 4 months...thats nothing imagine how it would be if yall was together for a year or two? U dont wanna keep feeling the way u do now do ya? U should move on and get better

Answer 6

Hell yes, you should breakup with him. You said it yourself: he's an asshole. There are plenty of great guys out there. Life is too short. Nothing good can come of this relationship. Drop him like a bad habit. He has no idea what a great girl you are. Go find someone who will appreciate and love you.

Answer 7

Doesn't sound much like a relationship at all to me. You hardly see him, or speak to him, he hardly ever calls, you cry all the time about the way he treats you, and he has been avoiding you?

I think there really isn't much to think about here. This isn't a relationship - a boyfriend should make you happy, and want to be with you, not make you cry. Ditch him and find a better one.

Answer 8

Let him know how you feel. Unless he is a mind reader he may have no idea he is hurting you the way he is. After you express your concerns and he still acts the same way then cut him loose. There are plenty of men out there that will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

Answer 9

It sounds like a good idea to break up with him.

It sounds like he doesn't respect you. He ignores you & never apologizes. Sounds like he's being that ****** a lot more often.
You said he can amazing, but it sounds like a rare thing.

You love him, so maybe that's why it's hard to let go.
Does he love you? If he doesn't, or if it feels like he doesn't, the love you feel for him is going to feel very empty and painful.
If he did love you, would he do this stuff to you?

Do you think he's worth the stress, pain, and suffering?

I don't think this is situation is worth it.

Answer 10

Yes, you should break up. There's a difference between serious and emotionless. It sounds like a toaster oven has more feelings than he does. I've never had a BF who didn't want to see me; that's really weird.

Answer 11

Heck yes, you should break up with him. Only if he changes his attitude, not necessarily towards others but to you.. yeh he has to. I'm sorry but I'l have to say the cliche: Theres many fishes in the sea. Good luck!