And if you have confronted this person about it and they promised to change but always go back to their original ways then how do you deal with this.
2006-11-27 02:53:43 · 18 answers · asked by haditforgood 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what I know emotional abuse does not only happen in a love relationship. It can also happened between parents & their children, friends etc.. The key to all this is still communication, instead of arguing or suffer in silence, communicate more when both person are in a better mood. usually it is the abuser that is suffering from an inbalance, try helping the abuser, he/she needs councelling actually. If you are being abused for long enough, you'll eventually need councelling. work on it. don't let that possibility happen to you.
2006-11-27 03:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by alvineager 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like this DO NOT change, no matter how good a person you are, no matter how much you love them. Your love won't change them.
If you are being abused, if you feel like you are being abused, then get yourself out of the situation. The abuser will make promise after promise, begging you to give them another chance, and things may even get better for a while, but they will always go back to the way they were.
Just look at yourself in the mirror and say "I deserve better." Then move on.
2006-11-27 11:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being emotional abused is just as bad as physical abuse. No one has the right to make you feel less of a person or not worth anything. The person giving the abuse is either immature or insecure in the relationship and feels the need to drag you down to make you stay...its Bullsh*t!!!! Get out now while you can they will never change until they have hit rock bottom and realize just how important you really are. Some never realize this...Make a better life for yourself and you will be happy without this person.
2006-11-27 11:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about because I am in the same situation. We have been together for over 5 years now and have 2 daughters together. He didn't get bad until couple of years ago. So, I know what you are going through, I am in the process of getting out.
For them it is a type of control issue, making you feel like a nobody. They try to belittle you, make you feel like you are a nobody, that you do everything wrong. They blame things on you even if they did it wrong because they always have to blame somebody else.
As far as what to do to deal with this, you got to do what is right within yourself, go to a therapist and see if he will go with you. If he doesn't than you know where it stands between you two. Then you have to decide if you want to get out since he doesn't want to change.
2006-11-27 11:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anna A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, emotional abuse is when the other person is always demeaning towards you. They are always putting you down and just making you always feel insignificant. Promises more than seldom work. You need to put an end to this. This is the most damageing of them all. You start to beleive and revolve your whole life around these negative thoughts and words.
Remember, this is a scar that doesn't heal. Stays with you forever.
2006-11-27 11:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this question from an experienced point of view. My ex-boyfriend was extremely verbally abusive he would call me simple and all sorts of other ignorant and abusive things.So I did get the courage to ask him to stop, and I told him how it made me feel. Yes he stopped..........for about a week or two but went right back to his old ways. I decided the relationship wasn't worth my self esteem or the stress and ended it. Of course I was a simple so and so for that, but I would of really felt like a simple so and so if I allowed it to continue.
2006-11-27 11:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by squeak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a women's shelter and talk to them about it. I don't know the details but it sounds like abuse. I am sure you could find hot line numbers on the computer and could call and talk to them. Don't let this keep happening though get some help from someone that knows about these things. Maybe you could add more detail about the situation and people could really give their thoughts.
2006-11-27 10:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with someone who does not add or multiply to what you already know about yourself (that's becoming a better person just being in the relationship) then you will need to cut that relationship off.
If they make you feel worse than when you first met them then they will need to hit the road. Your happiness is in your hand...no one has the right to make you feel wrong unless you give them the right. Decide for yourself.
2006-11-27 11:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by asake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont said if this person is your GF or Wife, but some people need medical help, this mean that only profesional help can let them understand how they are hurting your feelings.
If this situation it happen to much you cant do nothing, ask this person to visit a doctor for help this person can not do this alone. This people are never happy.
2006-11-27 11:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by FallenAngel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two valid questions. the best way to tell is if your self esteem is challenged, like believing that you can do nothing without the abuser. the only way to deal with it is to be away from that person. rarely if ever do abusers change, they need professional help.
2006-11-27 10:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋