My fiance started a job a short time ago. He told his bosses that he needed certian days off to get married and leave for his honeymoon. His one boss, my best freind obviously oked the time off. (She is going to be in the wedding) His other boss just had to agree because of my best freind.
My freind has been planning on leaving her job for some time and was going to give the position to me. I wasn't aware til last night, but she's already left her job. I was under the impression that she was not going to leave til Jan. when I am supposed to start this job myself.
Well she did leave and now the one lady is left completely "in charge" of the employees. My fiance came home last night telling me that THIS boss (not my freind) was asking him to work the day of our wedding. (THIS saturday)
Not only that she says that he is a great worker and wants him to come in during the two weeks of our honeymoon.
Im not working there yet, and I can't start sooner then planned of course
2006-11-27 02:51:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I want to know what can I do? I think that if i really spoke my mind there would be some issues with my future co-worker (his boss)
I can't sit here and cancel my wedding and my honeymoon because my fiances boss is an idiot. HELP!?!?
2006-11-27 02:52:53 · update #1
* sorry - my fiance did apperntly argue about keeping the days off and she just kept pushing ( he says ) this IS NOT my fiances fault. Its hers
2006-11-27 02:54:53 · update #2
Most companies have an Employee Assistance section. You need to see if they have one. They handle things like that. Or maybe your union if you have one or belong to one. Human Resources may have an Employee Assistance section but many times a Human Resource manager stands up for the company, not the employee. It's worth checking it out.
Bottom line is "the wedding will still go on!!!"
2006-11-27 04:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he may have legal standing. If the time was scheduled off prior to the change in authority than I believe legally it has to be honored (especially for a "life event" such as wedding, birth of child, etc). Tell him to contact a lawyer and find out if he could be fired over this. Then when he gets the lawyer's information he should continue with wedding as planned (honeymoon too). The cost of the losses you might incur as a result of cancellations could outweigh the benefit he would receive from postponing or cancelling... you need to weigh in all the factors before deciding. I think though that he will find he is legally supported in this matter.
2006-11-27 11:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly I would tell the new boss that it is your wedding and honeymoon and he will not be attending work as planned and requested. It is not fair for a new boss to request he work while on vacation. i would tell your husband to be to not back down and just tell his new boss that he will not be missing his wedding or honeymoon. Why would someone have the nerve to ask a person to come into work during this time is beyond my understanding! I think it is very rude! Be fierce! Good luck and CONGRATS!!!
2006-11-27 16:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie98_01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't very well cancel your wedding for this. Have your fiance tell her that he needs to tell her politely and firmly, no. It isn't as if he's taking the day off for the heck of it; this is his WEDDING, and it was already approved.
If there are consequences, then deal with them. I wouldn't want to work for a company that revokes time off like that, and I most certainly wouldn't want to be my husband's boss.
2006-11-27 11:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i feel like he should not go because it was already agreed that he would have those days off she can't fire him that's not something that you can reschedule it's not like he asked the day before the wedding if she does fire him that's a good law suit and what do you mean not speaking your mind cause you don't want there to be problems at the job that is well worth problems cause she is just being a a** hole. i say go ahead with your wedding as planned and deal with that later tell him to call in cause that's just wrong of her you guys have witnesses to what happened and she knew before time and she agreed to it she can't go back on her word like that
2006-11-27 11:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by baby girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wedding and honeymoon were already approved. Tell her that is unreasonable and it cannot be done. If she creates and issue over it, this is valid for a court case. Especially if your friend who left her job will stand up for you.
2006-11-27 10:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't confront the boss because that will come back to bite you in the ***. Did your future husband get in approved in writing to take the time off? If he did then there shouldn't be a problem. If he didn't then he will have to just tell her no. She is a jerk for even asking him to come in.
2006-11-27 10:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's already requested the time off, so there's nothing saying he has to go in.....he doesn't have to!! the company already knew about his time off and i'm assuming set up a scedule accordingly. too bad for this new boss if she thinks he's a great worker!!! don't stress about it. just have him reiterate why he can't come in, i'm sure she'll understand. if not, then maybe you should both consider working elsewhere.
2006-11-27 19:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Duelen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not your place to confront the boss...that is a bad idea all the way around. Let your fiance deal with issues at work...don't get in the middle and cause problems for yourself before you even get there!!
2006-11-27 15:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing your fiancee can do is to contact his Human Resources department and explain the situation. Basically, he needs to go over her head. If he was not previously scheduled and has an ok from people above her, there is nothing she can do to make him come in.
2006-11-27 11:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by DanielleNichole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋