I love my girlfriend Sherry so much, we have been going together for almost five years now
2006-11-27 02:42:29 · 66 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Get help from your family, or seeking for a job.
2006-11-27 02:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well...if Sherry really loves you she wouldn't care about you not having a job...that's first. Secondly ask her to marry you...you don't have to get married right after you get engaged so you'll have some times to save some money for a nice wedding. And lastly try to find a job so that Sherry won't be the only one bringingg in an income. Believe me if only one person is bringin in an income and the other is just sitting around then the marriage won't work. Good luck! I hope she says YES!
2006-11-27 02:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Trini-HaitianGrl81 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should get a job before u think about marriage or at least ask her then make the wedding plans after u get a job and have enough money to make it all work out. I mean if u love her and she loves u and u two have been together for almost 5 yrs then I believe that u can both wait a little longer to get married. I may be wrong but that's what I think.
2006-11-30 03:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by bride 2 be in 07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it is when you are young and love, and you guys have been together for a long time. Sadly, one of the greatest problems that married couples face is money problems and believe me, no matter how close and in love you are now with Sherry, things totally change when you get married, especially when there isnt enough money. The best thing for you to do, is get a job, I know it isnt easy, but keep trying, and save as much as your paycheck as you can. I dont recommend getting too many loans from family, as that may really come back to haunt you in the future. As much as you love Sherry, think about the life that you want to give her and let that be the motivation when you are working and saving your money! You are lucky to be in such a stable relationship at such a young age, so keep your head up, dont lose focus and set saving targets for yourself and everything will be fine! One important thing to do, is to communicate this to her, because girls need to know what's going on....so let her know what you are working towards....good luck!
2006-11-27 02:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you two love each other and have been going together for five years. This, in itself, should tell you to cherish this and don't sabotage it by getting married without a job. This may sound harsh BUT, you should know that it's hard enough to survive with two jobs rather than one(if she works). Unless your status falls within the rich category. Of course, if it did, you wouldn't be worried about a job.
Be patient. Get a good job and then discuss marriage. She'll love you MORE for it!!
One of the major causes for divorces is financial problems. You don't want to create this monster before you get married. You want to be financially stable. If it takes both of you to work to support yourselves and pay the bills, then that is what you must do. You will experience enough "bumps in the road" without creating one of the "monsters".
Give your difficulties some thought and be smart with your solutions. It's all part of becoming more mature.
2006-11-27 03:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You 2 have been together for a long time so waiting a while won't change anything. Starting a life together with financial problems and no job is not a good idea. Wait until you find a job and are a little more secure. It will be a much better way to start a life together. One of the main reasons for divorce in this country is financial troubles...don't set yourself up for failure. Wait a while and start your marriage the right way.
2006-11-27 02:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because marriage is a ceremony celebrating you and your girlfriend's new life together, you should start off on the right path. this means, that you should BOTH be financially able to withstand any circumstance that may come your way. also, think of the ceremony as her parents giving her away to YOU, her NEW provider. is there anything that is preventing you from working? if so, work that out, get a job, and then get married. good luck and i hope everything (job, marriage, life) works out for you:)
2006-11-27 09:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by dream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Sherry to get a second job
2006-11-27 03:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by SunnySmile83 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a job pronto!!! Because even if she said yes even when you don't have a job the wedding and bills to follow are going to be extremely tough to pay. I got married this last spring and we had jobs but crappy ones, and it is a nightmare every month to get all the bills paid. Don't rush into marriage, save a little first.
2006-11-27 03:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will both go through alot of maturity changes (and possibly job changes) over the next 5 years (at least)... I would wait until you have a job and are self-supporting before asking her to marry you. She needs to know that you will be able to help support your future together.
Good Luck.
2006-11-27 03:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! The number 1 stress in a marriage is financial. You don't want to go into it w/the cards stacked against you. You are only 20, what's your rush? You will feel better as a man, if you could actually provide for your family.
2006-11-28 19:09:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋