2006-11-27 02:42:05 · 39 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Been together over 6 years, bought our first house and have lived otgether for over a year - we want to spend the rest of our lives together but I think he was be happy to plod along and nver get married. I want a surprise propasal so don't want to push it but marriage is important to me and I don't want to wait forever!
2006-11-27 02:58:33 · update #1
I'm not nagging him and I don't want to.
2006-11-27 03:11:03 · update #2
ive bin wiv my boyf for 5 years and even tho we always talk bout getting married, already chosen names for kids etc he hasnt proposed yet. i have dropped hints and i know how u feel, its supposed to be this big moment in your life and u dont want to feel that he may never have fully meant it.
weve looked at rings briefly, he even randomly asks what my ring finger size is.. it was my 21st 2 months ago and we were on holiday in greece, thort he wud have dun it then, cant get more romantic than on a beach at sunset..
i know i wanna be with him 4eva and im sure he feels the same but im very paranoid anyway due to having pretty low self esteem so until he does it im always worried he'll go off me..
instead of dropping hints that are quite obvious, try being a little more subtle so he doesnt realise ur doing it! like bringing things up in conversation like, oh so and so hav got engaged (even if u make em up!) hope everything works out for the both of us xx
2006-11-27 04:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by spongebob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life too and you need to know what his plans for the future are. You have a right to ask if he plans on marrying you and a general time line. When he answers if you can live with his answers leave it alone. If he doesn't want to get married leave! If his time line is longer than yours you may need to compromise so you can both be happy. The proposal isn't the important thing having a happy healthy marriage is.
2006-11-27 04:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by LLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband proposed on our first date, he died after nearly 25 years together.
My second husband needed more than a hint and we had been living together for 6 years
Perhaps that's it don't live together before marriage, because why do men need to marry you if they are getting it all anyway?
We have now been married for 5 years so the hint worked.
2006-11-27 02:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by dancingcar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, after 1 month of dating he asked me to go ring shopping with him and proposed 3 months later. We've been married over a year now and together for 3 years total. You've been together 6 years and no ring yet? It sounds like he's not going to propose - it's one of two things - he's either not the marrying kind or you're not the one for him. Either way, yikes. Move on!
2006-11-27 03:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
We had been together for a few years and were living together then I said I wanted a baby. I was quite surprised to learn he's an old fashioned boy and wanted to be married before having a baby. We are therefore married but no baby yet!
2006-11-27 02:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not.
I think you should read some of today's questions from women in similar situations with you. They thought that living with the guy, having his kids, sharing a house, etc. would obviously lead to the guy wanting marriage - but now they are frustrated because he is not asking. The guy doesn't need or want anything more than he has, he is being taken care of, so doesn't need marriage.
2006-11-27 08:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, my fella asked me if we would like to go look at some rings (we already have a house, 2 cars and 2 cats and 7 years together), so as any girl would do at the thought of new jewellery I smiled and said of course. He was the one who guided me over to the engagement rings and asked me to show him which ones I liked. As it was near to my birthday I thought maybe he would come back later and give it to me on my b'day, but he didn't. He went back and saved the ring for 5 months and waited til we were on holiday. He asked me on one knee, on a balcony at sunset in Borneo. Very romantic - I am such a lucky girl!
I think if you are having to drop hints, he probably isn't ready.
Whats the rush anyway? Plenty more things to be spending your hard earned cash on than a wedding day!
2006-11-27 02:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you'll like my answer...
but why did you buy a house together if you're not married and you WANT to get married?
To buy a house with someone is a long term/forever commitment, ideally, and to do it before getting married makes for a poor start. It's like the saying...why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
2006-11-27 04:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by snowbunnygirl1980 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I don't think it's a good idea to drop hints for a proposal. Wouldn't you rather him do it when he's ready and know for sure he asked because he's ready? A guy wants a proposal to be a special thing he does for his girl and usually wants to surprise her. Don't push it.
2006-11-27 02:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes but usually a guy wont propose until he is ready to. Guys take their time before they ask their significant other to marry them. Marriage is for the rest of their lives so they want to take their time making that kind of decision.
2006-11-27 02:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋