my mom dosnt trust me help?

Question

i havent told a lie in forever like 3 years and she dosnt trust me an anything she wont let me carry money any where and on anything that goes wrong in our house she blames me for it and even when i tell her that i didnt do it she blames me and i get grounded i dont know what i should do and i feel horibel

i havnt told a lie in like 3 yearsand she dosnt trust me on anything ive tried talking to her about it but she wont listen to me she wont let me carry money anywhere and any problem that goes on in our house she blames on me even when i tell her i didnt do she still blames me and i get grounded i feel horible and i dont know what to do anymore

Answer 1

I had the similar experience almost 10 years ago.My mother would constantly put blame on me for something I did not do.She even wrote my brother who was incarcerated at the time I stole $20.00 from her purse when I did not.I eventually told her why she is putting the blame on me for such things and the reason why is because of all the stress that was going on in the household,-brother was in jail,father was dying,medical and household bills was backed up,no food on the table and I was seeing a guy who no one in my family approved,Last, she had to work long hours at her job. Eventually,she realized that I did not steal $20.00 from her purse..It was my dad and apologized to me for being wrong.I was mad at her for not trusting me but one thing is you can never hold a grudge forever.
I would talk to your mother and get to the root of her not trusting you.It could be numerous of factors that is going on in her or your life.I never knew a mother who does not love her child.
If you can not get to the root of the problem,the best thing to do is ask to go to counseling.

Answer 2

Well, Let's see - you say you use to lie but don't anymore. OK - so now she has to begin to rebuild her trust in you. I suggest that you openly communicate with her your feelings and ask her why she doesn't trust you. Tell her that you are trying your hardest to get her to trust you again and that you need her help so you both can get over the past.

If you can't have a calm and open conversation, then ask her to seek help with you from an outside source. Keep the communication open and honest, remain calm and if you or her can't then politely end the conversation until the both of you are in good moods.

Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

Talk to your mom, have a heart to heart talk with her . Ask her calmly and nicely why she doesn't trust you. Ask for the help of an adult you both trust, like your dad or an uncle, etc.

A very important point is that parents do want to trust their kids. Probably it not that she doesn't trustt you, but she just doesn't trusto you by now on some points. When it comes to parents and kids, with good will and honesty, trist can always be recovered. The firts thing to do is have a heart to heasrt talk with your moma nd tell her how you feel.

Answer 4

Oh boy tough one! The ongoing war between parents and their kids hmmm.

Well i've been noticing something about the questions asked on Yahoo! Answers. Most of the answers that seem like common sense to me is to sit down with that person one on one and ask them the same question you're asking here.

Ask your mom, "How come you don't trust me mom?" Prepare yourself for whatever answer she gives and remain as calm as possible.

Answer 5

Wow, you got a real problem. Y not trying to talk to her about it? If you think she wont listen, maybe try taking both of you to some one who can help. Im not saying a phsycologist, but maybe an aunt, or other parent. Someone who can keep her calm while you talk.

Answer 6

Don't blame it on yourself. Pray about it and tell someone about this situation that you trust.

Answer 7

wen shes following you , go to the library and borrow a pile of books, that will win her trust back