am 23 and my boyfriend is 35. we been 2gether 4 2yrs now.it never bother ed me until recently,when he started aspecting me to behave as a 35yr old. he dosen't take me out ,but still dosenot want me to go out with any of my friends. NO Male FRIENDS can call me, email or even talk to me on the streets. i dont think he luvs me, the same way i luv him.Whenever we have a fight, if i dont call him and beg hiim to talk to me he would not call me 1st.should i leave him and find somebody my own age.
2006-11-27 02:31:08 · 37 answers · asked by ms attitude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isn't a matter of age difference. This is a matter of your bf wanting to control you and that, my dear, is not a healthy relationship for anybody.
2006-11-27 02:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age isn't the issue here.
Without even touching on the ridiculousness of how he wants to control your friends and your involvment with them....If you don't think he cares for you the way you would like, don't settle for it. If you doubt him, or have to do all the work in the relationship it is simply not worth it.
What is he doing for the two of you? What sacrifices has he made? What truly selfless things has he done? What has he changed or modified to suit your wishes? (and I don't mean things he has to tell you he did, ones you truly feel)
If you're having a hard time answering these...smell the coffee
2006-11-27 02:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by bsamy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey the age difference is NOT the problem, it is attitude toward you or even women in general. You are his girlfriend not his property. From what you say I sense a lack of respect. And that has nothing to do with the age difference, that is just him being a control freak.. Yes break-up move on and find yourself a real man.
2006-11-27 02:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age differance should have no bearing on your relationship
Now with that said - the way he is acting is really atrocious regardless of age differance or not - even if you are dating or more - he has no right to dictate who you can and cannot associate with as long as you are not cheating or possibly courting to cheat with someone
It is perfectly to have male friends while you are in a relationship with another guy - if the guy can't handle it then his own maturity needs to be questioned
2006-11-27 02:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mad Marvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No age anit nothing but a number to most people when I was 19 I was with a 29 big uh. But it did bug me about the age but I thought he was like 24 but it turns out I was wrong last for a min. but the age got to me now Iam 20 with a 22 and it feels great to have someone around my age. Try it but in the end believe me you will go back to someone in you age trust me.
2006-11-27 02:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily think you should find someone your own age whoever you fall for you fall for
But if he doesn't allow you to talk to your guy friends then he obviously doesn't trust you at all. Do you care if he has female friends if you can't have male friends then he shouldn't be allowed to have female friends but if you said that to him he would get really mad at you wouldn't he.
To be honest I think you should leave him you need someone who you can go out with and have fun with and who trusts you. I think he may love you but to me when someone says I love you they trust you no matter what well unless you do something that breaks there trust I think you are a woman who has her head on right and wants a man to be there for her and this particular man doesn't seem to be there for you
2006-11-27 02:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both of legal age then age is just a number. You are both adults and are capable of making rational choices about your lives. His behavior has nothing to do with him being 35. its all about power. He is trying to control you and you are allowing him to. You need to leave the relationship. he will not change he will only get worse. now thing about this if you have to beg him to talk to you then honey you are the only one having a relationship. he is just there to rule over you. get out now while you can..
2006-11-27 02:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone who will let you have your own mind and still let you talk to your friends no matter what there gender is. And the age isnt the problem, it is the guy that has the problem cause he is very insecure. Move on.
2006-11-27 03:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no When I was 11 I dated an 18 year old
2006-11-27 02:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think age difference really matter. Like my grandpa, he was 80 when he married a woman half his age. They still got a child out of that marriage. But now his wife is already dead. I think it should be the guy who should be mature enough to handle the relationship. But from your story, I think he's the one being childish.
2006-11-27 02:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by JT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's always better for a female to get with someone younger because in the long run the male dies sooner than females unless you want to be a widow go for the older guy. In what ever makes you happy is the bottom line.
2006-11-27 02:37:18 · answer #11 · answered by Jip Jip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋