I am so confused. We've had sex and dated only a few times for the past 2 months. Because we do not live in the same city, it's either him coming to me or me going to see him. And we are both in school and it makes it even harder for us to see each other because all the busy schedules. But we both made the effort to see each other. We haven't had the talk yet and he did not ask me to be his girlfriend yet. But from what we've been talking to each other, it seems like he does want a some kind of long term relationship. Does he already take me as his girlfriend already or he is just hooking up with me? And he doesn't call me that often during the week. I really want to ask him what's going on between us and don't know how? please help...
2006-11-27 02:29:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask that question then NO()
2006-11-27 02:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not your boyfriend. You stated that you haven't had the "talk" so just because you spend time, have sex doesn't mean that the two of you are together. He may want a long term relationship but that doesnt mean that it's going to be with you. Go ahead and ask him you will feel much better knowing than not knowing at all.
2006-11-27 10:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I've heard recently that if you want a guy to stay interested in you dont have sex with him right after meeting him...Whats the saying why buy the milk when you get the cow for free...In all honesty though the only way your gonna now what he wants is by asking him
2006-11-27 10:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but it sounds like you're 'booty call' for him. Yeah you must ask him of course.. just ask in the exact way that you'd said: what's going on between us?? Thats it. If he says you guys are definitely a couple in the most serious sense, then tell him you expect more commitment from him and you need him to act more like a boyfriend than just a guy whos using you. Good luck!
2006-11-27 10:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by *~liYana~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initiate it. Have a chat with him and tell him that you feel like its time to move your relationship into the next level. See how he reacts cause it could be that he is afraid that you dont want to move to the next level. But you must be careful though because it seems like you two will fall into a long term relationship.
2006-11-27 11:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only sex. Pls don't make anything more out of this. Ok. you put out & now you are expecting it to be more--he just enjoyed it & is not interested in pursuing a REATIONSHIP. Women do this all the time & then wonder why the guy is behaving so "badly."
You might have asked what is the context of your relationship, before having sex.
2006-11-27 10:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesson number one: If you like him and are unsure of his feelings the best thing you can do is talk to him open up and let him know how you feel and what is happening in your heart. You said yourself you really want to ask him what is going on between the both of you. So do it. Get it all out in the open and let it run from there. Don't be afraid to ask, he won't bite your head off I promise. He will let you know.
2006-11-27 10:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Purple, unfortunately you are already providing him with all the long term relationship he needs. Why should he commit to anything? You made his life very easy. Don't expect anymore.
2006-11-27 10:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by dragunov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From all of what you are saying it sounds just like a booty call to me. And if you mean he has been calin you those cute little pet names like "baby", or "honey" then it's not out of feelings for you, it's so he don't get your name mixed with all the rest of the hoe's he be dealin wit. if you really have feeling for him then i say go after your man. you need to talk to him
2006-11-27 10:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by fashiondivine01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Hallo Purple.
I see that he is too young for you (3 year when you are in scool is too much) to be called your a... anything but a boyfriend. You just make him and yourself happy!
2006-11-27 10:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by goshashaman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys are a couple. he would not have made the effort to see you if it was other wise.
2006-11-27 10:34:38 · answer #11 · answered by ms attitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋