My older sister and I are chalk and cheese but we do lookalike apart from our weight.
I'm 5'10, used to be a size 18 now a size 12. My sis is 5'8 and used to be a size 8 and she's now a size 16!
She rang yesterday for a natter and in a very blasé way said
"oh my God for the first time In my life I'm fatter than you. How disgusting is that?"
Girls would you be upset or brush it off???
2006-11-27 02:20:59 · 46 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi cloud9, I lost it by walking 5 miles a day for a year. I live in the Northeast as well and it wasn't that warm but it did the trick.
2006-11-27 04:31:56 · update #1
I'd brush it off. You and your sister should be able to say and talk about anything to each other without being offended or insulted. If by any chance one of you did insult the other, then you should be able to say so to get it cleared up.
Im sure your sister didn't mean anything bad by what she said, perhaps she's feeling a little insecure about her weight gain?
It's certainly not worth falling out about, you only get one family!
:-)
2006-11-27 02:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is kind of the same as me and my sister, my sis is 5'2" and was a size 18 I am 5'6" and a 14/16 and my sis has lost so much weight she looks great I must admit I feel a little ashamed that she is thinner than me but that is ashamed with myself that I have put on weight not with her
I would never dream of saying anything like that as my sis feels so good about herself, however I know that if I had said that to her deep down she would be upset but wouldn't tell me that, not worth arguing over family is more important that weight!
2006-11-27 02:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I just say that at 5'10 you probably looked good at size 18 and at 5'8 a size 16 would look good too. It's not like either or you are or have been 'fat'.
Don't be upset by her comment, instead try to find out why she feels she's disgusting, or that indeed being larger than you is disgusting.
I don't think either of you have grown up feeling confident or good about yourselves. - Neither of you are defined by the size clothes you wear, and neither of you will find happiness by worrying about weight.
I wish you both luck and I wish you both happiness.
2006-11-27 02:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Victoria of Port 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably would have been a bit offended by the use of the word "disgusting" However, I would brush it off because you've succsessfully lost the weight but she's gained it! You're no longer fat so you should be proud of yourself and if people make comments about how fat you used to be, you should take it as a compliment because it indicates how much slimmer you are now.
2006-11-27 02:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in this position. i used to be bigger and she was always thin. Then Last year i was down to a small size 10(even though im size 12-14 now) and she was size 16 and my mum told me shes now a size 8-10(i live miles away). My sister used to call me fat, and then she called me a stick and so im dreading going home to visit next week cos shes probably gonna call me fat again and its gonna be horrible.
To answer your question, yes shes out of order by saying that.I would have a word with her.
2006-11-27 02:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would be a little hurt in all honesty who wouldnt be? however I would have a little smile on my face, as you have done such a great job loosing weight and should feel proud of that, and she is obviously jelous of this, and envy isnt pretty, so I guess what I am trying to say is to brush it off and just hold your head high, you should be really proud of what you have achieved and not let anyone burst your bubble
2006-11-27 02:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by sammy78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the adult in this situation and ask if she is happy withher size and weight.
If she replies yes just say good for you, as long as you are happy with yourself. But should you ever decide you arent, just call, I'll gladly help you shift those dreaded pounds.
If she replies no, tell her you'll help and support her to loose the weight, and that you know what its like a you were once there yourself.
2006-11-27 02:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably be a bit like 'ok, well thanks for that' and point out that its not really a great thing to say. But I wouldnt fall out about it. Se probably feels bad for herself as she has put on weight and is probably wanting you to make her feel better about it. Only she can help herself with this.
You should feel proud that you have lost the weight and you are now a healthy weight which has so many advantages for your body. Maybe you can help her get healthy, after all, she is your sister.
2006-11-27 02:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset. That was an obnoxious thing to say. I get the feeling she did it on purpose, too, like she wanted to remind you that SHE used to be the thin one. And she'll probably say it again, so think of a good reply, such as "Yes, well, some people age bettter than others."
2006-11-27 02:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brush it off, as she is picking a fight because if her frustration. Reacting upon this will start a fight with no end as she is frustrated and perhaps sad because of her weight-gain. Just leave it.
Just be happy with your new figure, and don't pay too much attention to people who want to pull you down. Even if that person is your sister.
2006-11-27 02:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋