how do u tell someone u love that u know of their infidelity ?

Question

got off work early, went 2 my man's house, another car was parked behind his, no lights on in the house

Answer 1

First, you need to be 200% sure that this is going on! Once you are certain, don't beat around the bush - it makes the entire situation that much harder to deal with. Confront your partner, but you need to have hard evidence. Pictures, whatever you can get. If you have no concrete evidence, he can deny it and turn the situation around on you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Could you be reading into this a little too much? I would think the same if I were in your shoes. But to give him the benefit of the doubt. Could it be a visiting relative? Or his dad/mom/sister/brother/cousin who got into town and needed a place to stay? Don't pin this on him just yet. If you ask him about it, he might wonder why you did not come in and might turn it around on you. And he further might get hurt that you doubt him/don't trust him. Spy on him safely if you can. Call him in the middle of your work and talk to him, see if he is relaxed or waiting to get off the phone? Tell him sometime that you are working longer hours on someday and get off work early, and park elsewhere so you don't get spotted. (YOU BE SAFE WHILE YOU ARE IN THE CAR, ROLL UP WINDOWS, LOCK DOORS). In case you feel you can't do this and might be seen. Ask a good friend to take you in her/his car. See if this happens again. I really hope he isn't cheating on you. And if you do confirm that he is cheating on you...don't hesitate to move on. It will hurt like hell, but it's a lesson learned and know that you are someone else's queen. You still haven't found that man. Take care!

Answer 3

Since you did not make an ignorant scene....GREAT!
YOu should tell him you and he need to talk.
Tell him WITHOUT bEING LOUD, what you saw. HEar his explanation and move forward with the conversation.
IF he is cheating, something else will come about. Then you will need to make a decision if you will allow someone to keep lying and cheating on you and accepting it as if you are so needy OR that you will STAND UP and move. YOU must define YOUR relationship. NEVER let anyone else control you enough that they define where you are going in the relationship. YOU MUST DECIDE TOGETHER. BUT IF he chooses not to, then you must do what is best for you.
IS it best to be worried and crying all night? I don't think so.
BUT it is ultimately up to you!

Answer 4

OK, How do you know its not a friend that just spend the night. Unless you know for sure for sure I wouldn't go tell him that he has been unfaithful. If you know for sure.What is your decision, forgive and forget or Done. Know the answer before you say anything.
You have two choices. Say nothing about it, when he calls, simply say your done and have no reason to stay in contact with him. if he pressures you for an explanation.either tell him or If he was to think real hard he knows the reason. Good by or you can say you know about it and do the whole song and dance. But stick to your guns. Sweet talk and promises are just that. Actions have spoken louder.

Answer 5

One on one you sit down with this individual, in a public place if you think he will become abusive and just look him right in the face in a calm attitude and voice and ask him who's car that was. If he's evasive then ask him the question, are you cheating on me?

Stay as calm as possible and prepare yourself for just about any reaction there can be. Upfront honesty goes a long way.

Answer 6

Whose car was it? Were they home? Maybe a friend had dropped by and they both walked to a neighborhood pub for a drink & some conversation.

Look before you leap! And you know what ASSuming does!

Answer 7

omg..people can be so stupid and they always sleep on the suprise visit. i hope you don't live with him. look, when it happened to me i actually walked in on him and some girl. they were in the bed butt nekked and she was on top blowing him. my ex, with his dumb ***, forgot he gave me the keys to his place. i told that chick that she had 2 minutes to get dressed and get the **** out, she grabbed her crap and scurried her *** out. i put the fear of god in her. then i proceeded to whip his *** for 4 hrs. from 6 am til 10am. i went to work, then went back to his place and whipped his *** some more. i have no regrets. i had to end it because i saw with my eyes he couldn't be trusted and that's a no no. i don't tolerate cheating. now as for you, the only proof you would have has was to walk in to see what was up. that would have been a sure way to know what was real. i'm not saying you should beat him up as well but that was your chance to take action, now all you'll get is "it wasn't me" or some other lame excuse. i'd confront him anyway. i doubt that if anything was going on he'd tell you, but it will be out in the open that you think somehing is goin on and you don't trust him. please don't sit on this. maybe he didn't do it, will stop doing it or be will more carefull. either way i wouldn't stop making surprise visits. anyway you look at it, you'll be insecure. you know a woman's intuition is always on point. no one says you have to leave him but do not take any crap, because if you do not only will he not respect you but how could you respect yourself. life is too short not to keep it real with yourself. whipping my ex's *** was theraputic and i am better for it. that loser still wants to be with me knowing i've moved on. think about what you're going to say and keep yourself calm. you might forgive it someone cheats on you but you never forget. whatever you decide to do, make sure it's your decision and you can live with it. good luck.

Answer 8

Did you knock on the door? If not then you don't know what was going on, unless of course you looked in the window.

Answer 9

well that must mean his cheating then! a car behind his or maybe the cars are cheating?

Answer 10

I never told them I knew, I just walked away.