if those who believe being queer is a choice then do they also believe being straight is a choice?

Question

could one decide not to desire the opposite sex when that is their tendency?

Answer 1

you've obviously never seen the green goddess, she would almost make one not desire the opposite sex. if you believe it's a choice, then it should apply either way, unfortunately it usually doesn't in some people's minds, queer or straight.

Answer 2

No one chooses.

There is a great deal of scientific evidence that it is inborn. Beyond scientific evidence there is anecdotal evidence.

The fruit fly study is actually fairly conclusive. But the pheremonal and eye blink studies are also compelling. I've included links below for those that are interested. Beyond that, research increasingly suggests that at least for males, Xq28 is the crucial gene. I am saddened by this, because I believe that once it is proven, gay people will be wiped out -- and I think that is sad, because given the number of species in which homosexuality exists (see Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press) I think it serves a purpose, and has been evolutionarily preferred. The recent Italian study by Andrea Camperio-Ciani and colleagues pretty clearly shows both how and why a gene or gene set causing homosexuality, particularly in males - would survive and be preferred evolutionarily.

In addition to scientific evidence is the anecdotal evidence. I never in my life had any sexual feeling for a female -- nor any romantic feelings. I have had romantic feelings for other males since 8. I figured out it was sexual at 11 and came out at 14. I never felt anything for girls, neither do other gay males I know. Some boys manage to suppress it for a time, but when it comes out they admit to having always had the feelings. Likewise for bisexuals, although bisexuals always have feelings for both, and therefore are capable of choice -- for real. Gays are no more capable of choice than straights are.

There is nothing either wrong or unnatural about being homosexual. Enjoy the links -- and think about the gay people you know. While some, particularly younger ones, may be risk takers or may be into drugs --- think about the young straight men you know -- how many of them are risk takers -- or into drugs? It's gender and age far more than sexuality. Others are, I would bet, settled, calm, caring and successful.

The only thing being gay does is change who you sleep with. No one chooses it however, no one is driven to "that path." It is simply natural and normal for some people. As I am sure you would hate to be told consistently, by everyone around you, that being heterosexual was evil, wrong, unnatural -- and "that path" when you know perfectly well it is natural to you, understand that gay people feel the exact same way. It is natural and normal to a gay person -- and having intercourse with, or romance with -- a member of the opposite gender is unnatural and abnormal. It would be wonderful if you extended the same courtesy to gays that you would prefer extended to you in reverse.

Kind regards,

Reynolds Jones
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 3

I identify as queer because I am strange, apparently... I am also gay.

I think that, logically, they should, but there is a distinct lack of logic and real thought or research on the part of those who simply want to believe there is something wrong with homosexuality.

The spectrum of sexuality is actually more complex, of course, as some people have been known to be exclusively straight or gay and then switch completely. It doesn't mean they're bisexual, but that something has actually changed in them -- even experts in the field don't know why, merely that it happens. They attach no judgement to it.

But... those who believe there is something aberrant about homosexuality are generally those who will not examine their beliefs in an objective light... at least in my experience.

Answer 4

The word is not queer but gay. But now to your question, I do believe that some people become gay because they can prostitute themselves and get money for it, I just saw a program on this on TV yesterday. But most homosexual and bi-sexuals are like they are because they were born like that. Sure, some people live a straight life because they have to, because society demands it. But most of those that hide the fact are very unhappy people, they live terrible lives. Being straight or gay is, to me and this is my sole opinion, is not a decision you make. It is the way your were born, sometimes while still in your Mommy's womb something happens, and you get more hormones of females, for men, and the same for women, they have more testosterone. That is the way I see, I don't have to be right, but in my mind that is what I think it is.

Answer 5

Being not queer is a choice....you choose to be with someone and have sex with them and whether that sex is with the same sex or opposite sex, its a choice. The only sin is when you put yourself on a pillar and say god is against homosexual queers to make yourself feel better about your choice.

Answer 6

Obviously heterosexuality is natural as far as the innate desire to procreate. Can it be a choice? Yes, but its also an innate desire forged by years of natural selection. I think one can chose to be hetero as one can chose to be gay. The hetero choice is probably easier.

Yes, people can and will go against their tendancies. Enviorment may be a factor or just simple desire. Male prisioners admit to havinng homosexual encounters (almost 50%) and many are completely heterosexual according to their word.

Bottom line, anything is possible in the realm of sexuality. Are people born gay? My answer is simple, who cares?!

Answer 7

People who believe being queer is a choice should talk with gays and find out the truth - that it is a gift from God. Having an ignorant belief about what other people have or have not done is pretty stupid.

Answer 8

What i wanna know is if being gay is a choice, what do people get out of it? Why would someone choose something that will make their life harder at least until they've come to terms with it? And why do animals choose to be gay? Really what do gay penguins get out of life, why've they chosen that path?

Sorry I cant really answer your question, I cant see how it is a choice at all.

Answer 9

I'm going to get a lot of thumbs-down for this, but I don't care. Here's how I look at it, and I hope that it makes sense.
In God's eyes, all sins are equal. So that means homosexuality, murder, rape, sexual immorality, stealing, and lying are all the same.
Now, to my little analogy. Keeping that last part in mind, there are some who have violent tendencies. From a young age, they desire to take life. Murderers generally DON'T start out killing people; instead, they kill small animals. Then larger animals. THEN people.
Can they resist it? Can they decide NOT to be violent? Of course they can, with God's help.
The same goes for liars, and for thieves, and for rapists. A person CAN resist their urges.
I am a non-practicing bisexual and a Christian. The non-practicing part is BECAUSE I'm a Christian.
So, to say that a person can't help who they are just because it's their "tendency" is a cop-out. They CAN resist it, no matter whether the sin is "small" or "large."
A person can CHOOSE whether to live a certain way or not. Period.

I don't make the rules, but I sure do follow them!

Answer 10

Yes, they could if they wanted to make that choice! I would think that most people just already know what their preference is without deciding.