say he loves me even when or after we make love. Is it weird? He is shy, as he claims, and talks much less. Does not say anything while making love, just a few sounds. He does not hug and kiss me often, unless I do it or ask him to do it. Is he cold? He says his ex-gfs said he was, I really love him and want to be with him, but this aloofness is killing me. what to do?
2006-11-27 02:06:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump Him...If he can not tell you he loves you or show you any affection.....I don't think he does love you!
2006-11-27 02:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not mean you are suppose to tolerate any and everything. I woman needs to feel desired and beautiful. Some might argue you should already feel this way about yourself and your bf/gf don't need to help you in that area. But your bf/gf does need to affirm that they feel this way about you. I would suggest telling him that you need this from him. Don't get into the typical if you love me crap cause it don't apply. People have their own ways and he could argue if you loved him you would except him as is. Once you do that see if he puts forth any effort. If he does then walla but if he doesn't....her comes the hard part. Leave! Yes it will be hard but you have to before you are filled with anger. And you will get angry and then there will be this guy that gives you that attention he doesn't and before you know it you doin something you never meant to be doing. So save yourself the trouble and leave.
Good Luck
2006-11-27 02:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.
Very far away.
My ex boyfriend was like this. I LOVED him. Big time loved him. He never said he loved me - he said he "cared about me very much", but he never said he loved me. He was also not big on hugging and kissing unless he wanted sex. I am ashamed to say I put up with it as long as I did, and more ashamed to say how devestated I was when he broke up with me, but I loved him deeply. Still, there were MANY times, as much as I loved him, when we would finish a phone conversation and I'd think to myself, why am I bothering? Sounds like you're in the same boat. If his ex girlfriends all say he is cold, he probably has issues that he needs to work through. My ex used to ask me if I thought he should go for counseling to deal with detachment issues that he KNEW he had, and I said yes and he never did. Cut your losses and get out now. Someone much better is waiting for you out there.
2006-11-27 02:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by thelittlemerriemaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK remember he is a guy and guys just can't express their feeling like girls. When a man has sex it does release a chemical in there body that helps them with there feelings at the time. It is hard for guys to say i love you esspeciallly if his family did not say it alot. Just give him time and show him all the love you can he may come around. It is your call!!!
2006-11-27 02:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by ldbevers21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if that is how you want to spend the rest of your life. You can love him now but 10 or 20 years from now, can you still love someone who is like that. He may be just quiet or shy, but if you can't share your emotions with the one you love, do you really love them.
2006-11-27 02:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. and if he doesnt try to do domething about it then leave him..
cause if you tell somebody they hurt your feelign adn they keep doing it like you never said nothing about it then leave then cause they dont care there hurting you as much pain itll be letting them go you need to because being with them will only hurt more... all you need is to get throught the first couple weeks. the first couple weeks are the hardest. And jsut rember it takes 30 days to make and brake a habit.
2006-11-27 02:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by take it or leave it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats is so cold. you should ask him if he loves you,if he says no , you should not be making love with a guy who dosenot love you.if he says yes let him prove it.
2006-11-27 02:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by ms attitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you need, either he can do it or not, and you decide how long you can stay with someone who can't make you feel loved.
2006-11-27 02:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be shy and when you all are ******* he might not want to say anything he might just be shy talk to him
2006-11-27 02:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by tyree_dickerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to understand him. give him some time and space. some ppl cant express their feelings very oftenly...
2006-11-27 02:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Helin ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋