My friend has been dating this guy for about 7yrs now. During that time, he's been cheating on her w/a girl from his job, (3yrs now) and my friend wont leave him alone. He's done so many nasty & hurtful things to her, yet she's still w/him. As a friend, I try to be there for her and listen, but I wish that she would just move on w/her life. What can I tell her?
2006-11-27 02:03:50 · 9 answers · asked by BEAUTIFUL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Urge her to get into counseling. Once she deals with her "issues" and gets more self esteem she'll dump the jerk by herself. Don't badmouth him to her either she'll just end up defending him and resenting you.
2006-11-27 02:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by lolabunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that because you care about her you think she should move on and leave this loser alone. There are other people out there that could treat her the way she deserves to be treated. I can see how she would be nervous about moving on because of the length of this relationship but I would let her know that she can do it and you will be there for her with whatever she needs.
2006-11-27 10:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your friend everything you know about dat bad guy. Full truth and if with proves it will be better. If your friend believes in you then she will not immediately leave him, she will want to test her guy. But if she just dont believe you then think that she is NOT YOUR FRIEND. Just forget about your friend and you move on with your life. I am perfectly sure about this because the same thing happened to my own sister. I klnow it will be painful for you but do it
2006-11-27 10:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by || SMI || 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women - sadly - are gluttons for punishment and abuse. And it sounds as though she doesn't want help. Be her friend, but also be honest. Let her know that you think she is making a big mistake, and let her know your opinion of the relationship. You will continue to be her friend, but you will NOT listen to more crap.
2006-11-27 10:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Truth would help alto. Some women are just drawn to men like that and there isn't anything that you can do but set there and listen.
2006-11-27 10:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are sick and tired of being her shoulder to cry on when its HER choice to be treated like sh** by this guy. Let her know you care about her but dont want to hear about it anymore unless it is about finally losing this jerk. Tough love, give it a shot.
2006-11-27 10:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF SHE KNOWS HES CHEATING AND SHE STILL STAYS W/ HIM THERE IS NOTHING U CAN DO. FRIENDS DONT LISTEN WHEN IT COMES TO MEN THEY THINK THEY ARE IN LOVE AND THEY DONT WANT HEAR ANYTHING ELSE. IF SHE DOESNT KNOW HES CHEATING TELL HER, BUT DONT BE SUPRISED IF SHE DOESNT BELIEVE YOU OR SHE MAY EVEN RESENT YOU FOR SAYING SUCH A THING LET HER LEARN THE HARD WAY
2006-11-27 10:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by carebear29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know to make her move on she has to make the decision and decide to move if the person doesn't make the decision to move on in her mind she probably thinks that she can't find someone better but you what needs to happen is she has to see him cheating on her in front of her face it will hurt her but it will make her move on
2006-11-27 10:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she is codependent and needs to find someone new, there are other fish out there,,
2006-11-27 10:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋