2006-11-27 02:03:47 · 9 answers · asked by big mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not try going somewhere where people will share somthing in common with you such as a hobby or group at a community centre. Once there you will have something to talk about as it's the reason you're there and you can use this as a basis for conversation. It's just remembering that everyone is in the same boat as you.
2006-11-27 02:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Princesspoison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a WIMP and get real. Do not put people on pedestals all the time, because that is probably what you are inadvertantly doing at present. It only takes a small comment to someone like, Good morning, or it's not a bad day that . Just try it in passing someone you see in the street. It works and it will help you initially build a little confidence which will in turn allow you to develop the art of conversation. Do not show fear, because human nature senses it and destroys it. Rather like media building up a pop icon or footballer and then starting to mutilate them in the press after a while.
2006-11-27 10:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by brian l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't bother with web sites how do you know the person on the other end is who they say they are and they look like the pic? you don't that's the truth.
when you go shopping just say to someone about the price of things or something like that and you will start up conversation just do it slowly and you will gain your confidence and you will fell better about talking to others maybe join a singles club? just a thought i am on my own and am in the same boat as you but i do say something silly in the supermarket and it breaks the ice one day i was shopping and a lady started chatting to me and we went and had a coffee in the supermarket being safe there and we chatted for ages so much so the frozen shopping melted oops just be your self and not what you are not and people will respect you for that and will want to chat to you best of luck and let us know how it works out for you
2006-11-27 10:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by on a need 2 know basis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Mama, they say: practice makes perfection. So, if you want to become a good communicator, start communicating right now, anyhow. One of the enemies of achieving your goal is being shy. Whether you're doing it well or not, just continue, and you'll be getting better, making progress as you're persistent in doing it day by day. Contact me through my profile for more discussions. cya.
2006-11-27 10:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way I find it easier to at least know one person thats having conversation and join them then you will get more comfortable talking to the others.
2006-11-27 10:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if it's about your appearance... put it to the back of your head?
secondly, just imagine something stupid like they're all naked. It'll give you confidence.
thirdly, try to make egotistical comments to yourself when you ARE yourself, complement yourself. It's a boost.
Fourthly, try to start to act conversations out to yourself. then you can imagine it with others!
2006-11-27 10:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by scots_allan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** that do what you do thats not really confidence you are acting scared don't be scared if you want conversation then go get it
2006-11-27 10:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by tyree_dickerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start small with employees in stores. (they have to talk to you) Then move on to people in line with you. (small talk--weather, time of year, the store) These should help you will small talk and getting comfortable with talking to people.
2006-11-27 10:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by artimis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pluck courage.keep talking,never mind consequences,rehearse infront of mirror,try until you succeed.
2006-11-27 10:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by modol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋