Hi,
I (18) was together with her (17) for more than 13 months.
But she left me because we live to far away from each other (150km).
So we saw each other only during te weekends. For her it was not enough so she broke up. She said she couldn't live like that.
she still loves me and i still love her, very frustrating. (We were together for 13 months and 13 days)
So, what can I do to get her back? to convince her that life is better together?
Should I keep seeing her? Or should I break every contact so she will notice wat she misses?
Please give any advice you have..
Thanks.
2006-11-27 02:01:18 · 24 answers · asked by Ruben E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're sooo sweet!! If she really loves you as much as you think then she'll soon realise she's made a terrible mistake and come back to you. You dont need to do anything than be yourself! It wont take long for her to realise. Dont be too needy though! Good luck!
2006-11-27 02:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 18. If she wants you and misses you she will be back. Enjoy life. My friend doesn't get to see her boyfriend for months at a time however they have not split up after years and they don't play away so if she really loves you she will be back. Still be friends as you never know what the future holds and the door is always open this way but do not let her play you.
If you really want her and she wants you and the distance is just the problem, how about moving in together?
2006-11-27 02:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by honeb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are so difficult! I was living on the other side of the UK, from my man for over a year, and it was so hard. At that time, we could only really meet up once or twice a month and were on the phone more or less every day. As you can imagine, our phone bills were huge! It was really hard on both of us, and we almost broke up because of it, but as we both really wanted to be with each other, we both worked so hard. It payed-off, and we're still together years later.
It puts such a strain on your relationship, but if you really love each other, it could work. Try talking to her about it. And maybe talk about the future, and if there is anyway you could move closer to her.
I hope this helps.
Good luck x
2006-11-27 02:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by hell_ova_arse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know, people are different. Some people could accept it but some could not. It's also the same to your case. You can hold on this far-distance relationship but it's really uneasy for her. She's the most hurt one because she just cannot stand with the pain of always want to see you and just cannot. There is the thing you can take her back, try to make her feel that you're always there with her. You know, technology brings the world close and a real love won't be apart.
All the best for you!
2006-11-27 02:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Srey Touch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess moving closer is out of the question. Don't break contact for the purpose of playing games with her. Make a plan for how long this distance thing will go on. Set a date. Then let her know how long it will be and waht you plan on doing to see her more. Obviously the distance is a deal breaker for her, and an end in site can only help.
On another note, forgive me for thinking this, but she could be playing a game breaking up with you like this and then staying in touch telling you how much she loves you. Just a thought. Games are for the playground--not for a loving relationship.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 02:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to put to much pressure on her. Be friend, a good friend, you will both need that. However, you are both better off at this stage in your lives finding someone that is closer to you - people need each other physically as well as emotionally, and I'm not talking about sex...just a hug when you feel down, a smile to brighten your day, a kiss for no reason....if you guys were meant to be together it will all work out ok.
2006-11-27 02:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not keep in regular contact, a very occasional "hey, how ya doin?" should be all. This is not to be mean but to give you both space. Give it about 6-8 months,see if anything developes on her end (or yours).
You shouldn't ever "convince" someone of how they feel, unless it comes to them naturally they will resent interference.
And don't get a complex about the 13 thing, it's tacky.
2006-11-27 02:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by bsamy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like 13 really IS unlucky for some!
Seriously though, I think you should break off all contact with her. It can go two ways; she'll either realise that only seeing you at weekends is better than not at all and start to appreciate what she had, or, you'll learn to live without each other and move on.
Good luck dude.
2006-11-27 02:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by upholstery_obsession 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very hard so I can understand your frustration. You both are young and maybe she just can't deal with this. I would suggest talking to her about it and seeing if she thinks there is anyway you can work it out. If she says no but you still think there is hope then romance her the best way you know how. Send her flowers or poems and really let her know how you feel. I am sorry your going through this but if you believe you can make it work then just try hard to let her know how you feel.
2006-11-27 02:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit tricky to answer, but I feel she may found a different reason for breaking the relationship.
Sometimes, if you stop totally communicating may give you clear idea whethere she likes you like what you have mentioned here. However you keep your mind peaceful for some more time and see what happens over the time. If she is not coming back, then think its time for you to look for someone who really loves you. I mean it.
2006-11-27 02:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by siva_kum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋