why would he do that?? i need help what would u do if that happen to u???

Question

Ok my bf wants this expensive phone for x-mass and I told him I will get that phone for him, however the last 3 to 4 days I went to the store they didn’t had it, so I went in on black Friday and they had 3 of them left, so I ask the guys how much it was and it was about 500 for just the phone by it self, I mean I love him so much but I don’t have 500 that I can just lose on a phone, so I call him at work and I told him how much the phone was and I told him they only have 3 left and they wont not get anymore in until after x-mass and I told him I will give him 300 and he can pay the rest of it him self , and he was suppose to buy me something for x-mass also and I start telling him how I never gotten any gift form him and I was compiling, so I give him the money and, and that night he came to my job and I was asking him were his phone was so I can see it and he keep saying I don’t have any phone so he takes out and shows me this ring and he said the phone is too expensive and I fell guilty that I never bought u anything and I just want to get u this ring it cost about 300. I mean it is my money and he acted like he paid for it, I mean I didn’t say anything I just said u shouldn’t have to and I cant take the ring back. And I my suppose to give him something for x-mass

Answer 1

I would give him a stuffed animal, perhaps a puppy. Thats about all he is worth. But make sure it's one you win out of the claw machine for like $.50... then he'll be sure to get your point.

Answer 2

I'd take the ring back to the store and get my money back and tell that jerk to hit the road! The nerve of him! If he wants a phone so badly why doesn't he buy it himself? Does he work? Why a $500 phone? He's never given you anything but you must buy him something? Why? You both are missing the whole meaning of Christmas. It's not about, "I'll buy you a gift then what will you get for me?"

If he can't spend a little money and buy you something once in a while to show you how he feels then why would you worry about straining to spend your money on him? Sounds like you need to show somebody the door and move on.

Answer 3

Yes I think you should give him something for Christmas but I think it should be small. I really wouldn't go out of your way because you ended up buying your own gift. Has he offered to pay you back? Something just doesn't sound right about this story. I think if I was a guy and I wanted to buy a ring for a girl but didn't have the money, I would save up for it. I wouldn't ask the girl for the money. I just don't like how this went down but you know him better then anyone. Does it seem funny to you?

Answer 4

You gave him $300 that was his Christmas (never take Christ out of Christmas) present. And your situation is really a catch 22. I mean if he would have used the $300 to buy his phone you would have felt like you gave him a present but been mad at him for getting you nothing. But since he used the money to buy you something now your mad because he has no present and spent your own money on you.

Basically it sounds like your man is broke he needs to get a job and you both need to realize that real gifts out of love come from the heart and have no monetary value. When your carrying an unbalanced load that's when you start keeping tabs either deal with the fact that he's broke or move on to someone who can satisfiy your financial need for happiness.

Answer 5

No my firend you already give him money to a cell, if he buy something else with that money is his problem, but let me tell you something when you are boyfriend and girlfriend your gift has not to be expensive, is ridiculous situation, there no comitment involved.

But let me tell you something he mention that he didnt buy it the phone because is was expensive, so he buy you a ring with your money not his money. Congratulations in your own gift, I dont see any intentions from him. Im sorry

Thats not good for me. Ask this question for your self, if you didnt give him the money for the phone, Did he buy you a present? I dont think so. You never mention how many months or years you have with him.

This relation is not good enoght sorry, but my feeling tell me so. I have 20 years of marrage so I know what Im talking about.

Answer 6

You need to make him understand that the money used to buy the ring, DOES NOT make the ring a gift from him to you. Talk to him about it- explain that you wanted him to get the fone, because that was the primary intention of the 300. Lack of Communication is one of the main reasons couples break-up, so start now and don't just let it slide. A small thing like this can lead to bigger things and it will start to eat away at you eventually.

Answer 7

I would think just by reading this that he is a user!!!! He may be a great guy but if he wants all these toys then let him buy them!!!!! Sure the thought was nice about the ring, but would he have bought you the ring without your money???? Ask him to pay you back that the money that you gave him was for his present not yours. Sure it is OK to buy your sweety a gift once in a while -- but be reasonable about it. Merry Christmas!!

Answer 8

you don't get it do you?
You did the right thing at first. you gave your money to your boyfriend for him to by himself a gift. at that point it becomes his money. It would be the same thing if you bought him the phone and he went to return it so he could buy you a special ring.
Do you get it now?
He sacrificed his gift to get you something. It was not your money anymore.
Your boyfriend did the most valiant thing by offering self sacrifice and what do you do?
dump on him.
I hope you did not do this to him yet. if so - you better go start kissing booty.
And no - you do not have to get him anything else except for unconditional love.

Answer 9

you think way too much about things, give him a good dinner and a great night in bed for a present. Does this guy work? maybe you should reconsider things with him if this kind of thing is an issue, cause its not gonna get any better

Answer 10

REally he should of gave you your money back but at least he did buy you something I mean it was your money but he did pick it out himself if you decide you dont want it and need the money just take it back no harm done.