I have bilpolar illness and cannot find answers to help me with relationships, I am on medications?

Question

Is anyone out there having relationships problems? Are you coping well and why?

Answer 1

I met my husband before I was diagnosed with anything and he had to go through some very hard times with me. After I was diagnosed things got easier. We both finally knew what was wrong with me. The medication has also helped as well as therapy. I guess it just takes a very strong person to deal with me and my problems, someone who truly loves me.

Answer 2

I have had severe issues with relationships in the past. I got married at 18 and was divorced by 20, because my husband couldn't deal. My current fiance is wonderful. He understands that sometimes I just can't keep myself under control even with my medication, and he knows about what bi-polar is. In all honesty, you need to have a good support system for yourself before you try to create new relationships. When you do start with a new relationship, try to explain what bi-polar is, that way if or when you do something that is out in left field or way off the wall, the person isn't totally shocked and even angered by what you do. Again, a solid support group is fantastic too, that way if by chance you do have a relationship that doesn't make it, you don't get too upset or feel terrible about yourself.

I am coping well with my relationships, but only because the people I have relationships with can deal with me and understand how I am, and how quickly I can change moods. I've found personally that the best thing to do is just explain. And I can say that I have spent a lot of time in the past apologizing for doing things when I was manic (more often than not, I'm manic when I am the meanest or rudest or however you want to put it). But now that I have better control of my emotions with my medications, it doesn't happen as much. You may want to also look into trying new meds. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, the medications would be the culprit!

These are the side effects... (They should have warned you of the possibility of low sex drive and irritability.) but then you may have considered an alternative means of therapy and healing and the pharmaceutical companies would be out... what? Thousands of dollars a year on your scripts alone?

Always look into the possibility of alternative therapies... Behavior modification, learning a new way of thinking and behavior, ect... Some people just need meds period... but that is a very small number. The rest are just given them because it makes the transition from sick to healthy easier on the therapist... Really, it shouldn't be easy on the patient... You really need to FEEL and EXPERIENCE that transition... the meds prevent that and the side effects alter and distract away from the healing process by bringing new problems into the equation.

What you need to do is take control of your own therapy and ask questions... be interactive in your own healing and don't leave the most important parts of your psyche totally in the hands of someone who at the end of the day is not you, doesn't have to live with you, experience for you or feel for you... Like I said, some people just really do need meds... If you feel that you do, then so be it but you should be explaining your situation and expressing how it is effecting you. They don't know what you don't tell them... If it is important to you, then speak up!

Make them work for their money... Be a pain in the *** and like it said over the doorway at Delphi... "Know Thyself."

Answer 4

I am open with every one about it. All of my friends and everyone around me knows that I have bipolar. This helped alot. People were very understanding and dealt with my moods. I am writing in past tense because I have been pretty stable for the last year. I met my girlfriend while I was still cycling and I told her from the start what the deal was and although some times were hard things did work out for the best. I suggest you be open with people so they can understand why you act the way you do.

Answer 5

my mother is bi-polar and she was a big "B" to live with untill she started getting counsiling and going to church. the councelor realy helped her and the whole family out a lot but she admitted just this summer that she was sorry for how she acted before getting counceling she hated me and widhed that i would die well she realized that she had issues in her past and i was a contant reminder of them and that is why she was so nasty with me. come to find out i am bi-polar and well i am greatful that there are meds and councelors out ther to help. it also helps that i have a husband that loves me and is willing to work on things even when i am feeling moody and we talk to our kids about it too but having Jesus as a big part of my life is the biggest help. also not wanting to be like my mom helps too. i found it boils down to what everybody else faces and that is the choice to be loving or snappy life no matter what it throws us boils down to a choice that only you can make.

Answer 6

Typed in "bipolar disorder" at the Yahoo! search engine and found a ton of links for support groups, newsletters, info, and anything else you can think of when it comes to helping people w/ bipolar disorder. Hope this helped and good luck buddy.

Answer 7

if the problem is that you are lashing out, you can go to any website on Bipolar disorder, and have familt and friends read it. They should know that it is worse for you than it is for them, and you should all work together, and even if you are not a talker, you should try to talk to them about how you feel.. it might help some

Answer 8

Yes, I am better, thanks to skills acquired from years of counseling and reading much literature on healing, the mind, good health.

Please have courage, patience, and remember to love your self, then love your neighbour as yourself. If you live by the Golden Rule, you have the best chance of overcoming the obstacles life presents you.

Answer 9

im bipolar and ive had a terrible time with relationships why? im moody ,confuseing and it puts stress on the spouse and relationship ,they need to learn more about your condition ,other wise its not fair for all!

Answer 10

try and find a support group.