i recenetly left my husband because we were having problems with fighting 3 weeks out of 4 and with my failure to adjust to being a stay at home mom and having no money of my own to spend. i mean, i hate begging him for money for things as small as cigarettes. i hate having to wait for him to come home just so we can go to the store to get dinner. he never left money in the house and he kept it all on his atm and credit cards.we would get into fights like the last one. it was about me opening a letter that came in the mail. i didn't even mean to cuz i was watching tv and talking to my child whose 4 and needs attention when she wants it. i came to my mom's house but now my 11 year old son and my daughter and myself are living in 1 bedroom and dealing with my sister and her 3 kids and my dad who is on drugs real bad. i want to go home but i don't want to return to the same situation. he calls me names when he gets mad and gets real stupid when he's upset. i feel like i'm going crazy.
2006-11-27 01:46:21 · 6 answers · asked by BABY GIRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get some help from the government and well as family counseling and marital counseling. If you truly love him and want to be with him then both of you need to change your ways, both of you need to work on the relationship. And in order to do that - you need honest and open communications. If you can't get anywhere trying to talk with him on your own - get a counselor involved. just because you seek outside help doesn't mean you are crazy - it just means you need help getting over this hurtle.
Remember your vows - they should be sacred. Don't just throw in the towel - you and hubby need to work at this relationship. It is not easy being a stay at home mom nor is it easy being a working mom outside the home. Communication is the key - start talking to him about the way you and the kids feels about how he treats you and what you would like to see change. Ask him how he feels as well.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-27 02:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Just asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try and talk about it together - you need to work out a housekeeping budget so that you have money to be able to provide for the children as needed. Your children are not in a healthy environment and you need to try and get things sorted as soon as you can. If he won't talk about it then perhaps you need to try marriage counselling - it's important that you both give it a try and sort things out. I assume that things were fine before you became a stay at home mum. You both need to explain how you feel and why things are the way they are between you - and both be prepared to change the way you view things slightly. Get some help and get the kids back into a healthy environment.
2006-11-27 09:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by minotaur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused - your kids are 11 and 4, but you still haven't got used to be a stay-at-home mom? How long do you think you need? I'm not defending your controlling abusive husband, but maybe you should look for a work outside the home so you'll have your own money to spend.
2006-11-27 10:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a job and apply for help from the government. Talk to other single parents. If you go back then have a plan on how things are supose to be. When he gets paid if he wants you to stay at home you get, he gets, the bills get. Or you work and he helps in the child care. Don't go back into him being a controlling relationship.
2006-11-27 09:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in there. I think that youre doing the right thing. He seems like he wants to control you and the marriage, which isnt fair...it should be a mutual thing. Please dont go back--it might seem tough right now, but things will get better.
2006-11-27 09:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by BEAUTIFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to so what ever is best for you and your children.
2006-11-27 09:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋