My boyfriend says he is tired.?

Question

My boyfriend says he loves me and wants me in his life. But we make love only maybe once a week. He says he is tired all the time. (he's 29) It this normal. I have never denied him if he wanted to do it. But there have been many times where he has refused me because he didnt want to. Am I doing somethying wrong?

Answer 1

Depending on how much he works, he may just be exhausted. I know couples that only have sex once a week and its their only night off, so the rest of the week, they ARE tired.

Answer 2

Once a week,my god you want to come to my house,my fiance and myself make love about once every 7 weeks.
Dont get me wrong,we have a very loving relationship and we love each other very much.
My fiance is 10 years older than me,he also says hes tired(bear in mind hes 46),it doesnt bother me coz he always hugs and kisses me and of an evening he wraps himself round me and tells me he loves me.
Given a choice of sex once a week or my life with my partner,,i would choose my life with my partner anyday.
Dont put pressure on your partner,you may be pleasantly suprised by the outcome

Answer 3

The realm of possibilities is nearly endless.
On the plus side, he may be really tired.
Next is the probability that while there is nothing wrong with you the perception he has of you has changed. i.e. from girlfriend to wife or mother. its all in his head but you might try counseling to find out.
Next is the possibility that he is getting some elsewhere and is too tired and guilty when he gets home. you might try counseling to find out.
Next is the possibility that he has turned GAY. you might try counseling to find out.
Next is the possibility that he was abducted by aliens and after the severe anal probing they gave him he feels guilty about all the times he reemed you out. you might try counseling to find out.
My general response is to get counseling. Try church or local community support groups. Look in the yeller pages. WebMD. something.

Answer 4

I have had the same problem. My husband works alot and he has a bad back though. Although he did tell me once that he had lied before just to get out of having sex just because he didn't want to. I think it is a control issue with him though. If your guy likes everything to be his idea maybe that's it.

Answer 5

Classic signs of seeing someone else, but how do you know. Hes 29? wow. Has to be some reason...low sex drive? Id find out. Doesnt usually work when one in the relationship doesnt want sex as much as the other.

Answer 6

If he works a lot maybe he is tired. 29 is still pretty young to be 'tired' for no reason. Maybe you could try him in the morning before he goes to work.

Answer 7

I would just talk to him. I am a 33 yrs old woman and I know that me and my fiance dont have the same sex drive. I would be the one that doesnt want it as much as he does. It doesnt mean that he's cheating on you or anything. Just talk to him and tell him that you want it more. Try playing little games with him to get him more aroused. Dress up and flirt with him or somthing. I hope that you get the answers you want. Be honest with him and hopefully he will be honest with you. Good Luck

Answer 8

I fully agree with Mike. There should be only these three reasons. However, it would be better to consult a sexologist.

Help him to sex-exercise

Make him happy all the time. Check out his wants and likes.

After all LOVE HIM MORE

good luck and ....uck

Answer 9

He's not telling the whole story. at 29 it's either you're not really attractive to him or he's just going through some hard time.

Answer 10

Maybe he really is tired. If that isn't the case, why don't you just ask him if three's anything wrong. Any problems that hes facing and offer your help.