Lets start with the beginning. My younger sister had a baby in March. SHe doesn't know who the father is so she and the baby are living with myslef, my mother and little brother. Since the day the baby was born I took care of him. She was healing for two months before she took any action with him. aIt was arranged I would care for the baby while she worked, and she would pay me atleast $150 a month. Now she works 8 hours a day, she will come home and leave with her friends or whatever guy shes into that day without telling me or asking me if its ok. I mean I love my nephew but for 8 months now I have been trapped by her and my mother on taking care of him, and shes a poor mother when she has him. She let him fall in the bath tub and instead of yanking him out immediatly she went to get a towl. Thankfully my brother got him out and helped him breahte through the water in his nose, or we would of lost him. How do I tell her..without hurting her that I am tired of being taken advantage of
2006-11-27 01:21:59 · 8 answers · asked by ephedrinexoverdose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well.....she's got a good thing going and she's not likely to want to change that. I don't know if you need to be so concerned anymore about hurting her feelings - in the meantime she's disregarding her child's wellbeing in favor of her own immature wants. If you have to hurt her feelings to protect her child, it's a hard choice, but maybe not so hard if you just keep your nephew's future and best interests in the forefront of your mind. Talk to your mom and find out who is willing to step up and take full responsibility for the child. Is it you? Your mom? Another family member? Whoever that may be, actions need to be taken to make it permanent. She is not fulfilling her obligation to him as his mother. He needs that - if not from her then from someone who loves him and is willing.
2006-11-27 01:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by mustihearthis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sister is not a responsible person. You know that. She sleeps around and doesn't even know who the baby's father is! She's still running around and leaving the responsibility of her child to YOU. You should contact Social Services in your area. Tell them she is not caring for her child, about the tub accident, and about your situation. If she can't care for her child, you can volunteer to raise him, or you can get Social Services to make regular calls to be sure your sister or mother get responsible for the baby, or they will lose him to adoption or foster care. This isn't your responsiblity, but you have taken it on. She should be paying you no less than $100 per week for childcare at this point. Daycare costs more. This baby's life will be in danger if you aren't around, and your sister is not going to change her ways or grow up and take responsibility if you keep bailing her out. If you are over 18, you can adopt the baby if your sister is declared unfit. If you are under 18, you shouldn't have to do this on your own.
2006-11-27 01:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very sweet person but you need to take care of you. Stand up for yourself. She needs to take some responsibility for her actions and having a baby is one of them. I don't know why you're worried about hurting her feelings, she's been doing that to you hasn't she? I would simply start refusing to care for the child after she's done with her work shift. Doesn't mean that you can't hang out and make sure the child is getting the care he needs but don't be the first one to jump up when he needs something, tell her to do it. She needs to learn that having a child is a big deal and by doing everything you've been doing, she's not having to deal with any consequences.
2006-11-27 01:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by koral2800 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time for you to have a family meeting and confront your mother and your sister. Why should you have to stay home and take care of your sister's baby? If she can have sex and get pregnant then she should be able to take care of her child. Tell your sister that you love your nephew and that you love watching him but would like for her to spend more time with her son. I would also tell your mother the same thing. Your mother needs to put her foot down and make your sister stay home and take care of her own child. I am not saying that your sister does not deserve to go out and have a good time but she should take your feelings into consideration and limit her going out. Good Luck!
2006-11-27 01:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let her know exactly how you feel even if it hurts her feelings that is not your responsibility unless she wants to give you full paren'tal rights and have him be your baby ,but since she wont then she needs to clean her act up and by letting her know that you arent going to put up with it no more shes going to have to face it ...........good luck
2006-11-27 01:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if you could hurt her.I would just tell her that if you wanted a baby you would have your own. further,that if she doesn't start acting like a mother you will call child protective services. This was her mistake and SHE should be paying the price.THIS ISN"T YOUR RESPONSIBILITY! I'm just hoping your not as stupid as she is.
2006-11-27 01:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by peckerwud2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just tell her that she can't behave like this anymore.. she has a child in responsibility... so...
2006-11-27 01:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by alexandra s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i htink you should tell her to be more responsable and that kid need more atention from her
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2006-11-27 01:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋