what is your oppinion of me...?

Question

i havent had a job in 4 weeks
i really need to start tidying up
ive started drinking during the day
i miss my old job i was in for 3 and a half years
am getting really depressed not working
i havnt been outside my house in over a week

i just want to add i am not recieving any money, and i stay with my parents i would never accept money from the tax payer it goes against everything i believe in, plus i lest my job volentry in the hope of joining the navy and i was rejected and no i was not drinking before i left my job

oh and my job was crap before anyway it was only in a chemist

Answer 1

You sound a little fed up but I think you'll get through this tough time !!

Chin up and good luck !!

Answer 2

I think you sound like a nice person who has just had a bit of a bad time over the past few months and you need a little help and support to stay on the right track. You would be helped greatly if you wanted to go down to your local job centre and look for jobs that would suit you. Also try and lay off the drink especially during the day because the longer it goes on the harder it will be to stop. Good Luck and keep us posted on how you are doing! You may be able to reapply for the navy again at a later date, I'm not sure of all the circumstances.

Answer 3

A few years ago I was going through something very similar, I was drinking four cans of Strongbow super and a bottle of red wine each night, I almost lost my job and I got into such a state with my mortgage repayments that I did irreparable damage to my relationship with the lender, so much so that when I got into difficulties again four years later, I lost the house.
My advice to you is have one last 'burster' tonight. Forget about your old job, its gone.Have a word with someone you trust to help you out, not to lend you money but to look after the money you would normally spend on booze. Get yourself a haircut, shave etc and a new suit, get out to the places were you think that you could work and start introducing yourself to prospective employers. Tidy up a bit a time, when your life gets into such a state it is easy to look at it as a massive task to sort ou, do it a little at a time by setting yourself targets, eg, today, the kitchen, tomorrow the living room and so on. Either way sort it out.

Answer 4

You're going through a rough patch.... but we all encounter them from time to time. You've developed coping mechanisms that are purely superficial such as you're use of alcohol. My advice is to try and not drink during the day. This can lead to prolonged periods of depression. You need to look at ways of getting yourself through this difficult period. Firstly, you need to start looking at the positive aspects of your life and focus on finding employment. You're attitude of not taking welfare benefits is somewhat Dickensian.... that is what the welfare benefits system is there for. You need to swallow your pride and look forwards. Sometimes in life we expect everything to be hunky dory and perfect.... well it's not... and we sometimes have to make the best we can out of situations. You're probably feeling rejected and despondent but life has a meaning and there will be many more opportunities. Your self isolation and "not tidying" are classic symptoms of depressive illness. If this continues then you may need professional help by means of talking things through or even anti-depressive medication.

Answer 5

Go Outside, even its its just a walk round the block or to the corner shop, getting out and doing some exersise will cheer you up and the time spent in new surroundings will help you think of what you want to do next. Loosing your job is not the end of the world..your next one could be even better!

Answer 6

Be a man about it. Turn the computer off. Put a cap on the booze. Tidy up. Get out of the house and look for another job (read opportunity). Don't mean to sound harsh but it sounds like you need a good swift kick to get going again. ; )

Answer 7

Hello,
What are you doing? Or put it this way...What is the bloody wrong with you??

What an excuse ,drinking during the day, if i were you stop the drinking, start begging for your old job back, is the drinking that you lost your job 2? You got yourself to blame!!

My opinion of you, im disappointed with you!!We are all paying for your drinking, if you are receiving benefits...get a life, life too bloody short. There's people out there suffering from terrible illness and scared of dying, not seeing their kids grow up or see their grandkids,and all you think about drinking yourself to death.

Wake up and smell the coffee, get down the jobcentre and start looking for a job, or beg for that job you lost!!

Now I wish you a happy christmas and chin up!!

Answer 8

ok lets put things into perspective here, its only been 4 weeks since you last worked, yes get the duster and vacuum out, it will make you feel better, stop drinking, you dont have the money, instead use your time to find a new job you will love, in turn this will get you out the house and lift your mood. catch it soon before it gets any worse. good luck xx

Answer 9

You've just gotten lazy and you might be feeling a bit depressed, take this time to plan and think about where you want to go next and force yourself to do it...make sure u get up early (as though u were going to work or sleeping habits will deter you from doing your best, go to bed at a decent time and get yourself out more, even if it just means going to take the dog out for a walk.... You need motivation...Do something productive, you'll feel much better at the end of your day...get of here!! lol

Answer 10

Any ones opinion is in-material at this point-but U need to take care of yourself.U will get another job,maybe Ur pride got hurt on the last one,getting back in the swing of things and getting a routine going again will put some pep in Ur step and breathe life back in U.

Come On -- U _can_ do_ it!!!!! {:--:} ^

Answer 11

You seem like a good person that's a in a bit of a hole. Go to bed early tonight. Get up early tomorrow, sixish. Get a newspaper, go to a diner, and eat a good breakfast. Read the paper a bit and go get your self a good job and get back on track. Understood?