Im 8 months pregnant now and the father dissappeared from the word 'pregnant'. He has said from the beginning he cannot have any contact in my childs life but is willing to give me child support, even though we dont talk anymore. I will need the money, but the last thing I want is for him to want access one day and fight me for custody. Does anyone have any suggestions for me to get my son what he deserves, but leave the heartless rat out of our lives?
2006-11-27 01:17:59 · 6 answers · asked by jojobass86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop making it your problem. Be happy that he don't pay child support but still wants to be apart of the kids life. No matter what you think about him I am sure your child won't give a rats ***. Just let things play out and make sure you give him every opportunity to be a father. Your child will appreciate you being an adult and not a child. Who knows you changing your actions may facilitate him changing his ways. But I can assure you that if you are mean and nasty then I am sure he will respond in kind
Good Luck!
2006-11-27 01:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your desire to have him out of your life supercedes support, get an attorney and ask him to sever parental rights. He won't pay any support but he will be gone.
You did not give much to go on about what he maes him a rat, but I want you to think about the impact this will have on your child. Even if you marry and have a great male father role model, your child will eventually want to know who their biological father is. Only you know the circumstances and it's an awesome responsibility to make that call. A real toughy. Just try to remember that the choices you make now will have an impact on another life for many years to come.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 09:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if he is paying child support he has every legal right to have contact with the child. It can be mandated that it is supervised. But legally there is no way for you to get support and a guarantee that dad had to stay away. What you can do is ask dad not to sign the birth certificate and to give up his rights but then you won't get any money either. Good luck and get an attorney.
2006-11-27 09:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by Just asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and ask him to write a letter stating that the father says that he dont want any contact with the child and if he tries to get custody, it will be denied, but he still has to pay child support. And let the both of you sign it, that is the best thing i could think of, or you could write the letter just to show as proof if he does change his mind.
2006-11-27 09:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your son what he deserves????
Wow....
Your son deserves a home with a mother and a father. You denied him that 8 months ago. And don't tell me how horrible this guy is, you chose to have sex with him. Now all you are talking about is money.
If you don't want the father in your sons life, then don't have any part of him in your sons life. Not even his money.
2006-11-27 09:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk with a lawyer. A man who pays child support has every legal right to contact with his child, unless he poses a danger to the welfare of the child.
2006-11-27 09:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋