My sister in law is driving me to suicide. She is rude to me on the phone and has my husband sticking up for her all the time. She has done everything by the book and has produced lovely boys to carry the family name forward....where as I refuse to be the typical indian daughter and sister in law to their family and cant have kids. my husband treats the boys as his own and is over affectionate towards the sister in law. No one can say a bad thing about her. He hates it. I feel slammed out of his life for the duration of time that we spend together at family functions.
All other times my husband loves me dearly....do you think she has bewitched him? What can i do to make my husband realise that its ME that will be there for him for all his life....NOT HER!
Please help.... its so depressing.
2006-11-27 01:14:01 · 4 answers · asked by stars 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dear Sukhi, Perhaps you can practice the art of detachment. Try to separate yourself from what your sister-in-law does, and avoid any situation that will lead your husband to "stick up for her." In other words, try to avoid being critical of her, even though I know that will be hard. If she is rude to you on the phone, you simply say, "I have to go now," and ring off. You are who you are, worthwhile and valuable in your own right. She is who she is, and you don't need to compare yourself with her. The bottom line is that you probably can't change her relationship with your husband, or change the way he feels about her boys, so working on acceptance and detachment may help. Try not to give her so much power over you -- to be driven to feelings of despair by someone else is allowing that person too much control over your life. I wish you all the best.
2006-11-27 01:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you refuse to be a sister in law(not the typical) to the family then perhaps there is a breakdown in communication - you need to talk alone with you sister in law and explain how you feel, she has a heart too give her a chance, embrace the family and the boys they could easily become your special nephews. Take Care dont give up, being part of a family takes work on all sides.
2006-11-29 09:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yopu made need some professional intervention in this problem. Your S-I-L seems to dote on your husbands attention. as long as she feeds this it will make the situation more difficult. Cool off the relations between the two of you. See if that will open the door to communication.
2006-11-27 09:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dnt rly kno what to say duz he love you?? why not sit dwn with him one evenin and tell him how u feel, but dnt change ur mind abt the way u want to live ur life cos then he'l start controlling u, GL email me if u wna chat ok :) xx
2006-11-27 09:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by monaUK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋