My friend is dating (only recently) a guy who seems fairly gentle but who alludes (in really hot emails) to a sadistic side and who, for example, when he kisses her pulls her head back by her hair. She says he is extremely passionate and that though she knows nothing of s&m she responds to this kind of treatment. We do not know this guy. They have not slept together. (Thank you, Lord) Should I be worried?
2006-11-27 01:06:17 · 9 answers · asked by outdone 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it was ME then should I be worried? She requested that I ask the question.
And, personally, I think she's a little worried that she responds to this sort of thing. So, I'm really not in her biz, just trying to help her get her own stuff straight.
2006-11-27 01:15:32 · update #1
Yes, you should be worried. And you should probably not let your friend go ahead with this. (unless your friend is also into s&m stuff). Surprisingly, girls tend to enjoy this kind of behavior because of the pain and submission.
Women are naturally passive, however, that doesn't mean you should put yourself in a dangerous situation.
At first she might even enjoy some of it, but I'm sure that very soon she will find herself stuck in a relationship with him: where she will often get back to him for sake of love + she won't be able to leave him even if she wants to. It's like an addiction that is always potentially dangerous.
This is my opinion. He might turn out to be a decent guy but it is still risky and doubtful. So be careful. Take care.
Cheers:)
2006-11-27 01:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by ricci 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 10:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by knudsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship you can find these tendencies. (You may know about relationships where the guy/gal is boss, while they are definitly not into s&m)
Your friend should enjoy her relationship and see where it goes. As soon as it takes a turn that scares her too much, or the guy gets abusive, she should consider pulling the plug.
It may very well be that it'll never develop further than just pulling her hair, and she should not let that scare her.
2006-11-27 05:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Don't look too close! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THAT is a sure sign of incredible trouble in the future . Those are the signs of future physical abuse . It never gets better but escalates into beatings and even murder . If you feel he is sadistic, drop him .
There is a difference between rough housing and sadistic handling . Observe if she displays black and blue marks .I hope she values herself enough to get rid of him .
2006-11-27 01:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its just the fact that you're getting attention from the person you like, but sometimes its the treatment itself. There's nothing wrong with it as long as noone gets seriously hurt.
2006-11-27 01:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by acollegeangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend pulls my hair when we're making love...but as far as fettishes go that's pretty mild. it's the sort of sex equivalent of liking a chicken tikka masala...its when he wants to start beating you and whipping you that you need to be worried
2006-11-27 01:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be worried. Nothing has happened. It's all "talk." Maybe she should be worried if they ever do get together. But you should not.
2006-11-27 01:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stay out of it, it's between the two of them.
2006-11-27 01:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to your friend to decide what she does and doesnt feel right for her.
just be there for her if she needs you :O)
2006-11-27 01:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋