I was sexually assaulted a few weeks back im my flat that comes with my job. The guy was arrested but there was insufficient evidence to charge him. As a result of this i have had to leave my flat as i don't feel safe there and have had to have time off work. My employers are now hasseling me to go back to work but i don't feel ready and i think i'm going to lose my job because of it. Christmas is coming and i don't have any money and don't know what to do.
2006-11-27 01:05:20 · 12 answers · asked by kb1 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Firstly, you should see your doctor and ask to be referred to a counsellor, you have been through a traumatic experience and it is obviously having a bad effect on you if you are afraid to go back to your flat. I'm sure your doctor will be sympathetic.
Secondly, your employers should pay you a sick pay, full rate for a certain period then a lower rate for the rest of your absence. If your employers do dismiss you, you may have a case for suing for unfair dismissal. You should ask for a meeting with your boss first or write to him/her explaining your situation, and ask to be allowed to have the time you need to get over this. If they are unhelpful or threaten you with dismissal you should really seek legal advice. A solicitor will be able to advise you better than anyone here. Don't worry about christmas, its never nice having no money, but if you have the support of your family and friends then I am sure they will understand that you can't afford to splash out this year. I hope everything works out for you, best wishes.
2006-11-27 01:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sigh........well, it is illegal to prohibit someone from leaving. He did that with you. And he was sexually assaulting you by trying to make you have sex after you said no. Whether the later part was actually forced or just pressured, I don't know. Women have to be very careful about where they are and who they are with. I think putting yourself in that position was wrong of you but he was wrong in assaulting you. You shouldn't do anything since you weren't raped, you're confused about the later part. The poice might arrest him, but they wouldn't be able to prosecute him for anything. Behave how you feel. You might be a little tramitized, maybe in shock. Being forced into almost having sex is scary. Being held down and almost raped is very scary. So you're not overreacting.
2016-05-23 09:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your doctor he may be able to help and advise you am sure you have been offered and given contacts by the police for counselling (you may think you don't need it but believe me it will help).
As for your employer they should be more understanding, if you have a union rep contact them. You are entitled to sick leave (ask your GP). Seek some free advise from the CAB about your rights and also a Injunction on the other party, Injunction often give the police the power of arrest if the other party (your attacker) comes near you this may help you to feel a bit safer..
There are lots of organisations out there to help all you need to do is pick up the phone and ask.. You can also contact the officer who was dealing with you they can provide and arrange contatcs a safe place for you to go, for you. Also try haven they are a great orginisation i have called them and arranged help via them for many people hope they can help.
2006-11-27 05:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by dcukldon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you're going to need more help than anyone here can give you. Have you tried one of the hotlines, they would know a lot of the legal stuff you need help with. I would move as well. Doesn't the company have another building you could go to, pay rent here or there, what would be the difference to them? You're saying flat so I'm going to guess you're from Britain?? Different laws there from here, so it's tough to help out.
Now, again, don't know all the details so I could be waaay off base, sometimes getting back into your routine, eg. going to work, helps the healing process. But only you can judge that. I have no idea if you have unemployment insurance where you guys are. You could pull that for awhile. All that failing, get a new job, pay rent on your own.
2006-11-27 01:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek some professional advice through calling a hotline or talking to a doctor. People here, however well meaning, cannot provide you the conversation and support that you need.
Getting in touch with your employer and clearing stating the problem is a good, necessary, start as well. You need to begin thinking very seriously on whether you wish to continue this present employment or whether you are willing to seek other work.
Call someone, get some professional advice. You have my sincere best wishes that this is able to help and that things improve.
2006-11-27 01:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Vanguard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in between a rock & a hard place.
If the person who assaulted you had no connection with the company you work for just go back to work & tell them you don't feel save in your flat. (They should do some thing to make your flat safer.)
If the person who assaulted you had a connection with the building you live in or the company you work for then you have probable cause for a law suit.
2006-11-27 01:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you made contact with victim support? Link here: http://www.victimsupport.org.uk/
You could also try the rape crisis helpline. http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/members.html This link will give you a number to call in your area.
Another choice you have is your local Citizens Advice Bureau, link here: http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/index/getadvice.htm#txt_getadvice_header-Anchor-search
You need counselling from someone who can tell you your rights and options.
This is not really a good forum for the help you need - all you have to do is look at some of the answers you have been given to see this.
2006-11-27 01:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sue 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your employers have no right or respect to be hasseling you. If you have no place to go, there always shelters for battered and abused women.
2006-11-27 02:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by l2wh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will feel better when you get back to work. Right now you have nothing else to think of but what happened to you. That is why. Once you get back in to the swing of things you will feel better.
I have been there.
2006-11-27 01:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Reported for insulting my belief 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've got to be brave and go back to work....you've got to try and put it all behind you and get on with your life....Don't let the scumbag who done this to you win!!!! I know it's easy for me to say...but It's all I can suggest!!!
2006-11-27 01:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by prettywoman 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋