I am happily alone. Unfortunately, many of my friends insist that I "need" someone and that it is "wrong" not to want companionship. I don't mean just a relationship, I mean I have NO desire for even casual companionship and no interest in sex whatsoever. I'm perfectly happy in my partnerless life.
Why should it be wrong that I'm not lonely and miserable?
2006-11-27 01:00:11 · 11 answers · asked by Voodoid 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think some of you aren't quite getting what I'm saying. I'm not "going through a time" when I want to be alone, I NEVER want a companion. Period.
2006-11-27 01:27:31 · update #1
It is not wrong. I am perfertely happy alone. I do not get lonely. I can always find many thing to entertain myself and do not feel I need someone else to do it for me. I always told my children you have to learn to be happy by yourself, with yourself before you have anything to offer anyone else. I feel this is one of the main things wrong woth our society is everyones desire for someone else to make them happy. You are the only person that can make yourself happy.
2006-11-27 01:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Elfa T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wring with the way you feel. Some people go through spells feeling like that and a few feel that way all their lives. I also am a person who could happily do without people (except my kids, but I wouldn't miss 'em if they had never been born). My dad is aloner and my husband is a loner also. Sometimes I've been described as snooty and thinking I'm too good for others, but really I just don't care to go through all the effort it takes to get to know someone and maintain a relationship. I'd rather read, watch TV, or be on the computer.
If you have symtpoms of depression, please get evaluated by a doctor. Loss of interest in others is a symptom of depression.
Tell your friends that there are variations of normal and that your variety is the loner type. Let them know that you don't think they are bad people, you are just happier doing things on your own. Then go find a quiet place and entertain yourself with your thoughts :)
2006-11-27 09:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by K L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you. my friends to the same thing to me. and there's nothing wrong with it or you. your friends mean well but they have to realise the you need to go at your own pace. let them know that being alone (and it doesn't mean you're lonely) is what you may want and need right now and as long as you're happy then they'll be happy. having a partner to satisfy others is a mistake. you'll be doing it for others and not yourself. take your time. if and when you want to be with someone it will feel right then. life if too short to be thinking that's now or never. do what makes you happy. if they love you then they'll leave you alone about it. who knows, you my change your mind in the future. some of the happiest and most successful people are single. but if it is a problem for you, then i suggest you see someone professionally. it could be good just to get a non-biased opinion. good luck and relax, you're human.
2006-11-27 09:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I,, like you, was also enjoying life alone, hey if i could be a hermit,living in the middle of the woods , it was all good to me, but now i crave companship , on a sometiems basis, so I;m also wondering whats wrong with us? I am just glad to know I;m not alone in this mad world.Thankz
2006-11-27 09:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by glm_57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong, but Man is a social creature and it seems odd that you would willingly wish to live alone. However, if you are content, then that's all that matters
2006-11-27 09:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
i truly think your mind is your own, but i think you should never say never, you just dont know what is around the corner!!. noone does. and fair play to you for being hapy with the way youare, you have proved your happy within yourself x
2006-11-27 10:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by rachie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound asexual. Some people are, nothing wrong with it. Meddling friends don't understand.
2006-11-27 09:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it at all - everyone goes through that at one point
2006-11-27 09:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mad Marvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so this isint about your question but who the **** are you to call me vindictive? okay first of all im vindicated sometimes not vindictive so um yeah i would have e-mailed you but yer sight wont let me so **** you !
2006-11-27 09:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by *[Hanna]* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as you're happy
2006-11-27 09:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋