Why did I do that?

Question

I found out on Saturday (from my brother) that this girl who works at the hairdresser's I go to has a bit of a "soft spot" for me. He went to get his hair cut and, as I was leaving, my brother heard her saying that she could have "got his number then". To which the owner of the place replied something like "Go on then, he's only just gone". My brother hasn't changed his story since, so I think there might be something in it.

Anyway, I went to see her today, but she was a little busy. I decided to wait until she was free, but I didn't get the guts to go up to her and speak to her. Instead I went and (of all things) got a "Thinking of you" card. (Stupid really ain't the word here, is it?)

She is absolutely beautiful, and really sweet, but I haven't got the guts to say anything to her. I mean, I don't even know her name, for god's sake. What if he was lying? What if it wasn't me she was talking about?

Or an even better question, WHAT DO I DO? Any suggestions? Please help me.

BTW, my brother had his hair cut (by the owner) on Saturday ... I had mine done (by her) on Friday.

MrsMac, I know it wasn't my brother for two reasons:

1. I left him at the hairdressers (I had to go and pick up an Xmas present)

2. He's 13 and she's about 23 / 24.

Answer 1

Send her the card...Its unusual but quite sweet! Put you number in it so she can ring if she wants to, also ask her to text her number to you so that can ring her...;

Answer 2

Think about this. You are absolutely obsessing about a lot of things that you don't even know are true or that may never happen. You are driving yourself crazy. Think of the worst possible scenario and that would be that she says no. Go to get your hair cut and during the cut tell her that you love talking to her and ask if she would like to meet you for a coffee when she is finished work. If she is interested she will let you know. The only bad thing that could happen is that she might say no and think about it that is not really a terrible thing. Although it does hurt the ego slightly. She will probably find you very nice and if she knows your brother already she will feel that there is a bit of a bond already. Don't be nervous she may really find you attractive and by being afraid you are missing out on a chance to go out with a lovely girl. Good luck.

Answer 3

Lol, its not stupid to have gotten a card, its kinda sweet!

Can't you tell from the way she is with you, if she does have a soft spot for you or not? Surely you will have an inkling either way!

I think you should go in, get your hair done again and start up a conversation with the girl. You could start by asking her name! Don't freak out about it, just take it slowly. Ask how long she has worked there, does she enjoy it, does she live nearby etc. Actually listen to her answers, pay attention to what she is saying and keep eye contact with her. Ask her if she would like to meet up for a coffee later. Whats the worst she could say?....no! Its not the end of the world, just a little knock to your ego.

You will be fine....good luck!!!

Answer 4

Have you actually given the card to her, if not I wouldn't at least not yet. Why don't you go back to the hairdressers a little later say 10 minutes before it is due to close and have a word with her. Start by saying that you need to get your hair cut but you are thinking of trying something new what does she think. Then strike up a conversation with her. If she's not interested in you then she not going to be that forth-with with information if however she does like you, it’s a chance for the both of you to start something.

Answer 5

Just have your typical idle conversation you normally do while sitting there getting your hair cut - then move the conversation into things you did the past weekend - let her tell you what she did - then maybe suggest you two go catch a new movie coming out if you see an opprotunity to ask such a question - make it seem at first like going out as friends - from there you can take the next step if you see one availeable

Answer 6

To tell the truth that's what girls like. Guys going to get the girl a card or something. To me that is kinda sweet. That's what I would do if I was u. Just go up to her and make a conversation. Or just give her a idea that u think she's pretty and that u want to talk to her. Trust me if she likes u like your brother says then sooner or later she'll come to u and start to talk to u. Trust me!!!

Answer 7

Firstly,I think the 'Thinking of You' card is very sweet! But why don't you wander by as they are closing,and when she comes out say hello and ask her if she has plans for dinner,as you're on your way to get something to eat. That way it comes across as just a happy chance meeting.

Answer 8

xxlushXX has the right awnser, but seriously dude if you sent that card, things could be a bit trickier! You might have to start by telling her that you didnt have the guts to talk to her but that your not sure why and you don't usually freez up, thats the only way i can think of getting round that card, hopefully you didnt send it though!

Answer 9

If you like her give her the card Also why not book yourself in for a haircut from her and get to talk to her.Go on be brave and all the best of luck

Answer 10

First, find out her name. Then, go in to get your hair cut and ask that she do it. While she is cutting your hair, have a conversation with her in which you introduce yourself and eventually exchange numbers. Then you have her number, name, and all you have to do is ask her on a date.

Answer 11

not really so stupid. even if your brother was lying it seems like she's someone you're interested in and what better than to find out for sure if she is too... at least you won't be left wondering then. hope it works out :-)