HELP!
i m dating with my boyfirend and i love him a lot!
But sometimes he asks for sex but i dont want to although i love him very ery much! I just want to stay a virigin until i get married. But i dont want him to think that i dont like him, i love him a lot. So what sould i say? to him????
PLEASE HELP, thanks
2006-11-27 00:44:34 · 26 answers · asked by d_doris_b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i m under 20
2006-11-27 00:44:54 · update #1
i m in Hk wich is out of US but with mixed cultures. Like mostly, Bristish culture
2006-11-27 01:11:35 · update #2
hey say; i m not ready, can we wait? you know i love you
i hope this works for you. stay as a virgin, i m one too! i m proud of that although i m 15 but there are so many girls lose their virginty at around 14
2006-11-27 00:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by v_o_v_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are under 20 but you didn't say how much under. Anyway l guess that's not the real issue here !! If he loves you as much as he claims he does, he must respect your wishes to remain a virgin until marriage. You certainly do not have to have sex with someone to prove your love for them. Do not give in to him if it is against your beliefs and wishes. If he insists on asking l would tell him exactly how you feel and if he cannot accept that move on, as it is a sign that he has no respect for you. Good on you for wanting to stay a virgin until marriage, there is certainly nothing wrong with that. Well done and good luck.
2006-11-27 09:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about your wish to be a virgin until you marry. He will want to know why you keep tell him no, on sex. Guys like the truth. Now he may not like your decision, but its your body, and your choice one what happens. Dont let him pressure you on changing your mind. Most girls give in to the pressure, and their virginety is lost, with no turning back.
I know that being a virgin can be a hard choice, the wait can seem forever. But its so worth it in the end. I would know from experience, I and my boyfriend dated 5 years, not once did we have sex. I told him about my wish to remain a virgin until I married. My Boyfriend, was quite the gentelmen and agreed on this. It was hard on the both of us, holding back, We were so tempted at times, but kept true to the choice I had made, Soon after, we were married, and the wait was over. My husband knew I had kept my body for only him, and our Wedding night, and sex life has been so Sweet and Awesome,I have no guilt at having sex with a million guys I didnt even care for, Or guilt that I was a slut and my body had been used.
Im so thankful I waited till my marriage to have sex. I can proudly say this, most women cant...and I could have been like anyother woman, but wasnt, because of my choice to be a virgin.
Keep your choice, you will be so happy that you did!
2006-11-27 08:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way but unfortunately caved in to the pressure and my hormones. Ended up pregnant at 19, and divorced with a toddler at 21. I thought if he and I got married it would be forever. I loved him more than life itself. But things changed after the baby. We ended up divorced.
Aside from that, from a Christian point of view the right thing is to resist until you are married, so there is certainly nothing wrong with holding out until then. Reassure your fella that you love him. Get the book The Seven Love Languages, determine his Love Language (besides physical intimacy) and focus on fulfilling that for him.
Tell him you just aren't ready-that you want to wait until your wedding night. Let him know that you understand he is physically and emotionally frustrated. Keep "necking" and "making out" to a minimum if this becomes a big problem. Both "necking" and "making out" are known as foreplay and can lead him (&you) astray-or increase his frustration. Reassure him that you love him, and that you are waiting for HIM to be the one on your wedding night.
Good luck, and I'm proud of you for not caving and seeking some advice.
2006-11-27 09:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by K L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what age you are, he should respect your wishes to remain a virgin. Tell him you really care for him but you would like to wait until you're married because you want your husband to know that he was the first and the only one that you made love with. Ask him if he would want a wife that had whored around before marrying him. If he wouldn't care then tell him you love him but you want to wait and if he truly cared about you he wouldn't pressure you. Dump him if he wont respect that.
2006-11-27 09:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is as common as a handshake. If you want to make it that way with you and your bf, then your virginity is worthless. To make virginity worth something, it must not be given as a handshake, meaning to satisfy his craving for you and once given by you to him, can never be given again to anyone else. So unless you believe he IS IT for you, my suggestion would be to tell this clown if he can't respect your wishes to stay a virgin until married, then he is not the BOY for you. Personally my dear, I have talked to many a boy/man, and most have reported they only want to see how long a woman will say no and that they are only interested in getting her bedded and once bedded, their interest quickly moves onto the next one who will say no and mean it. They report not wanting something everyone else has had. This includes cars, women and clothes. Think about it!
Good luck to you!
2006-11-27 08:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you wish to remain a virgin until you are married.
If he can't handle that, he can leave. I know you love him, but you have to respect yourself and your morals in a relationshp before anyone else. Period.
If he can handle that, it might put an end to him asking for sex...which would make the relationship so much better.
2006-11-27 08:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he will respect your wishes to wait. If he insist on it, then he is not worth marrying. I've been married twice, both my wives were virgin until we married. I never forced or asked for it. But I respect them a lot because they did wait.
You know he just might want another "notch" in his holster, once he gets it, he might take off. My advice, wait until marriage. If he waits too then more to him, if he leaves because you won't, then you knw what he wanted all along. Keep your self respect .
2006-11-27 08:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont have sex ur on the right track by remainin a virgin. Tell him that u want it to be a present meant only for him and that u would never do it unless ur gettin married.
Trust me u will never regret it .Plus even if you loose him your husband will respect you for it.I would
2006-11-27 08:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by Uzair(Stormshadow) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed about marriage with this guy before? If not, try and do that right now and let's hear his opinion about it. Also, since you've determined to save your virginity till after marriage, let him know that he's the one to open that "channel" if only he's ready to wait till that time. If he's annoyed and leaves you cos of this, then, he's NOT your future husband.
2006-11-27 08:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋