ok i really love my girlfriend but a couple of days ago she told me that she didnt feel the same way to me and the thing is that her exboyfriend cheated on her when she was going out with him and she got hurted because of that and she says that she doesnt want that to happen again and thats why she is not to open to me, but i've tried really hard to let her see that im not like that other guy and i dont know what to do now because she kind of put a wall in the relationship saying that to me that she doesnt love me the same way i love her so what should i do? please answer me im going crazy i dont want to lose her!
2006-11-27 00:43:31 · 10 answers · asked by manlaw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you really love her let her take her time. don't push or you'll push her away completely. talking helps. let her express herself and give her space. never make her feel as though it's all or nothing, when a woman feels pressured, just like guys, she'll walk away. chances are, if she's not opening up to you becuase of a bad past relationship, she's not opening up to anyone else, so don't worry or feel insecure. you both need to take your time. if she's worth the feelings you have for her, then let her go at her own pace. she needs to know that she'll be able to trust you. she may feel more for you than she's letting on and may just be afraid. cheating does damage and she just needs time to heal. it may not feel like you're rushing her to you, but it might to her. she needs to feel ready to let someone in again. try to understand her side of it through calm conversations and heart to hearts with her. you won't lose her.
2006-11-27 01:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may honestly not love you the same way you love her. You have a choice, you either end the relationship or you don't.
She was really honest in what she said. You should be proud of her. I know a lot of people who wouldn't have the respect for their partner to be that honest.
If you honestly want to progress further and are comfortable with the split of emotions, go on...but realize that the relationship will stagnate because she doesn't want to go further.
If she has already put up walls though, I would end it. Chances are that is already on her mind. Maybe tell her when she is ready, you are ready for her.
2006-11-27 00:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to accept what she has told you and not feel a competition with the ghost of that former relationship. She doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her--it happens, that's life.
2006-11-27 00:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her as a close friend and find another girlfriend! Good Luck!
2006-11-27 00:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you should let her go. You can't force relationship to work.
2006-11-27 01:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by jeanne1120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love her anyway, Sometimes you gotta laugh through the tears, smile through the pain so that you can live through the sorrow...,Love will make you forget time, and time will make you forget love.So ,you'll see what happens by the time
2006-11-27 00:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. Once she feels that she can not trust you it would take an act of GOD to get her to trust you.
2006-11-27 01:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by redbull_photo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose her. move on thats what shes telling you, she has her own troubles to work out.
2006-11-27 00:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by David B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find another girl and forget about this one,
2006-11-27 00:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on.
2006-11-27 00:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋