2006-11-27 00:40:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, yes.
If she hasn't given you any reason to believe that she feels the same way, you have to take it slowly and give her a chance to develop those feelings. If you just spring it on her, it can be overwhelming and might push her away.
2006-11-27 00:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, i never tried it before. But a friend of mine confessed her feelings without even realising that she was actually speaking to the boy. In the end, well, the boy was like so shocked and rejected her maybe a tad too harshly, because she broke down and cried after that. The truth was, the boy already had a girlfriend whom he loved very much and didn't like the girl at all. And it turned out that his girlfriend was her best friend. The boy felt very guilty about rejecting the girl so harshly and finally told her that " I think it would be better for us to remain as friends".
2006-11-27 08:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by wingyan. (: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I tend to do that. I would rather lay my cards on the table and see if the feeling is mutual than sit there and wonder. If the feeling is not mutual, oh well, I can move on knowing that I said my piece. I don't understand the people who pine away for months or years with quiet crushes and never say anything. The pain of a possible rejection cannot be as great as wanting something and not having the courage to try.
2006-11-27 08:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I told my boyfriend after we broke up how I really felt, and all he could say was,,,,"we can still be friends". I think if I would have told him in the relationship it wouldn't have made a difference, because he already knew he was going to break up with me, and i don't think it would have mattered, but I felt better, knowing I let him know how I felt. I know now he knows, and one day he will look back on things, and realize he made a mistake, (with the relationship he's in now) and will come running back, and I will not be there, but just as friends.......
Don't ever be afraid to show your feelings, and if you are,,, maybe your relationship isn't strong.You should be comfortable in showing how you feel, and never scared. That should have been my first sign, was being nervous to show how i really felt, but I wanted our relationship to work so bad, that I let myself overlook what was really going on....I was slowly being DUMPED,,,but we live and learn, and I have,,,dont be afraid to say how you feel,,,,NEVER,,,,if they care for you like you do them,,,they will LISTEN and RESPOND!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK
DAPHNE
2006-11-27 09:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... I have learned to do it that way... lack of communication in any relationship is not good. I have been divorced once and remarried now.
divorced one ended because I was young and was afraid to say how i really felt or what I wanted etc.
Married now, have great communication with my husband, If I don't tell him exactly how I feel, how is he to know what's on my mind. Our marriage is great because of good communication and have no doubts that we will always be together.
If your young and you like someone, it's hard to tell them you like them, but if you do... what have you got to lose. He'll either be happy to hear it or he won't. At least you will know where you stand with him. If he likes you too ...great. If not, well it wouldn't have worked anyway. good luck... Like I tell my 13 yr old daughter, be yourself, and try not to care what people think of you, all that matters is what you think of yourself.
2006-11-27 08:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep and I got told that he thought of me as a friend. He didn't have feelings for me any other way. We are still close friends. I think he's got a twisted idea that if we dated and it didn't work out we wouldn't be able to go back to being friends. I think that we could go back to being friends again...you gotta take a chance sometimes...I just can't seem to convince him of that.
2006-11-27 08:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Let's say she didnt have the courtesy to reject me outright and let it hit home over a period of months. I sometimes hate her for that.
2006-11-27 08:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did to my wife-to-be forty years ago.
She only smiled.
I was on tenterhooks waiting for her to say something.
She did and laid me flat.
"I aready know all this....."
And I had thought that I was a pastmaster in hiding things.
Then she completed her setence and laid me flat again.
" is untrue!Who else than me could have fallen for you?"
We both laughed to our hearts' content.
P.S.I am indeed a pastmaster!
2006-11-27 08:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not a good practice. Unless self destruction is in a persons plains.....
2006-11-27 08:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, was a start to a 5year relationship.. she felt the same way..
2006-11-27 08:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋