Well am 17 and my boyfriend is 30 the age gap meaning nothing i like older men.But i am very paranoid about him, i get paranoid he will cheat on me i get lods of things said to me from his ex partner and he says he was cheating on him but when i ask him about it he says it is the other way around. i am very paranoid and we are going to split if i dont get help i love him and i dont wanna loose him i just need advice please i am very down and thinki may be depressed feeling so down.What do i do to so being paranoid and always wanting to be with him.he say he needs time away from me to go away with friends gay clubbing witch i think sint right incase he sleeps withsome one what do i do PLEASE HELP !!!!
2006-11-26 23:48:17 · 17 answers · asked by Adam J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's probably going to cheat on you, otherwise he'd take you to the club with him. you're not paranoid, you just have good intuition. dump him!
2006-11-26 23:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a man, you are a boy. He has an established life, which includes going clubbing. You are too young for that lifestyle. So you are feeling the effects of the age difference.
Why are you talking to his ex? There are no guarantees in the relationship world. If you can't trust him then you have to leave him alone.
Relationships are not supposed to make you feel this bad. If you really are this depressed, you need to see a doctor.
Give both of you a break. He has his own interests, this is healthy and normal. It makes him interesting and attractive doesn't it? Do the same with yourself. Have your own friends and interests. Stop being some damned available all the time. Make him wonder where the hell you are for a change. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is this needy. If you don't stop it you will lose him, and it will be because of you, not him. Get your act together, grow up, get out there, get a life.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 00:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear what has happend, im 38 weeks pregnant and it doesnt get any easier,through out your pregnancy. i trust my partner 100 % but even when he does go out my mind fills with alsorts, i feel very insecure about my body at the moment so you really need to talk to him, i wouldnt stand for 'Just a kiss' but i also understand that he is the father of your child and you do not want to bring up a broken family. Hope all is well and good luck with your pregnancy!
2016-05-23 08:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paranoia is a bad feeling, but at the end of the day people do as they please,and theres no point crying over spilt milk, he aint the only bloke out there for you. You can tell in his eyes if he loves you, his kiss if he wants you, just stay calm and dont push him away with bad feelings. I am in the same situation as you but im the 28y/o and shes the 18 y/o, she tells me about the things that happen, says she never cheats but i just dont know anymore.... so dont just think its you! we all go through it, all i can tell you is that it will work out one way or the other, just be confident enough to live with the outcome. x Good luck
2006-11-27 02:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by fearofthebadger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well may be his ex is right, if he rather spend time with his Friend than you , and the fact you are young , you are probably just a play thing to him.
i would suggest to let him go..
being paranoid usually means there is something your own senses are telling you. these are usually right.
i was paranoid once unusual for me am it turned out to be justified.
get over him . and if you like older men wait a year or two and if i am still single give me a call.
2006-11-27 00:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by needmybaby2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok firstly put yourself in his shoes, If you were him, how would you feel if someone was accusing you of going round and sleeping with other people, its enough to make you.... go off and sleep with other people. Talk to him, tell him why you feel insecure, chanced are he'll feel the same way. If you trust each other then your relationhsip will grow, but if you keep accusing him of being unfaithful then its not going to go anywhere!
Get dressed up and go out together, remind him of how much fun you have together, and how good you are as a couple, i'm sure you'll fimd he omly has eyes for you
Good luck!!
2006-11-27 00:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paranoid is a very strong word and if you use it I would say first you consult a doctor. The best thing to get rid of all these confusion is to talk to your b/f very clearly and explain all your fears to him and listening to him and studying his body language you will get the answer. If still you have doubts on him the best thing I would suggest is to leave him otherwise both of your lives would be miserable in the later stages.
2006-11-26 23:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a pederast. That's a bad sign, whether or not you mind the age gap. The two of you can't truly relate due to the large age-gap.
This relationship will end sooner or later, regardless of what you do to prolong it. I recommend breaking it off, moving on, and finding someone else.
2006-11-29 18:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by Morningstar2651 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but If you can't trust him you shouldn't be together.
Relationships should be built on a number of things, most important is trust and communication.
Everyone needs time away from their partners. You can't be with them ALL the time. It's unhealthy! Let him be with his friends. How can he miss you if you're always together?! Missing your partner and longing to be with them is what keeps the passion alive!!
You gotta learn to trust him Hun. Cos otherwise you'll end up losing him anyway...
Good luck...
xxx
2006-11-27 00:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU SOUND FAR TOO IMMATURE TO BE WITH A MAN OF THAT AGE,HE WILL END UP WALKING ALL OVER YOU AS HE PROBABLY SEES YOU AS A SILLY LITTLE BOY WHO HE CAN WALK ALL OVER.IM NOT AGAINST AGE GAP RELATIONSHIPS,IM 28 AND MY BOYFRIEND IS ELEVEN YEARS OLDER BUT YOU HAVE TO BE ON THE SAME WAVE LENGTH INTELLECTUALLY OR YOU WILL END UP BEING USED.
2006-11-26 23:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh! little girl , please do control your emotions and sentiments , understand this cruel world .Take a deep breath and think about your days yet to come . Ok you love him or enjoying his company is one part , other side is , he is using you as a toy to satisfy his physical need which he is enjoying with you and holding you by emotional black mailing . Better use your mind and get away from this mess to secure your happiness in future , yet to come in your life .
2006-11-27 00:01:06 · answer #11 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋